13dias's Journal, 21 February 2019

why is she still there! oy. 

i know! :( .. they came from overseas & husband thought we need it a long time, worst is that he is not even home most of the time :,(  

You don’t have to justify anything. Your body and your health are your business. Don’t engage when she starts this nonsense. (I know, easier said than done) 

Do for you. And you legend to no man. You only have to answer to yourself and God. Be happy with you thats, all that matters.  

I'm so sorry you have this additional battle to deal with. Making healthy food choices is hard enough without someone actively sabotaging you in your own home or questioning your food choices. I know you want to "keep the peace", but respect is a two way street. What you should do is just step back and consider what advice you would give to your very best friend who found themselves in this situation. Think about what you would tell them to do and consider what you would be willing to do to help them and then take your own advice no matter how difficult it may seem. Other than outright confrontation, I have no words of advice other than to make sure you always have healthy whole foods available so you aren't left without options even if it means keeping a secret stash of apples and almonds, or preparing your own meals separately in advance. Personally, I'd ban her from my kitchen and then remind her that she is just a guest in MY home and if she wants to remain a guest, she is going to follow my rules to the letter.  

middle March @Annabear  

thank you for your comments.. I'm reading them carefully , I does help to know there is someone on my side .. it sounds like a small thing but the emotional manipulation and the little extra drama for things I wouldn't give a second thought before can get draining, or feels good to feel you guys support .. let's do this : ) 🤗 

I'll try doing it for myself and not to engage..and just general avoidance.. it's just a few weeks more , husband got very fat!! so I know for sure we will do some extra effort together after they are gone.. for now if at least i can just keep my weight it'll be fine ..thank you fs!!!  

Yikes! What a tough situation. Quiet confidence is what I call it. Let them talk all they want and maybe even agree, but do what even it is that is right for you. Maybe think of a standard reply like, "no thanks, I'm fine or I got it". Have you decided on husband's punishment for leaving you with her?!?! Just kidding, sort of. 😉 

*ever, not even. 

oh.. I'm so going to punish him..lol 

yes.. it's just a little bit more