|
Wow has it been an emotional couple of months. My husband having health issues, business slow, it's winter and cold, my dad has skin cancer and is dying slowly from Alzheimers. I feel like I am trying to fill from an empty cup. Which I know I need to take care of myself, but it so hard. Then I have people putting their noses where it doesn't belong and telling me that I am not spending enough time with my husband (who is having health issue, but they aren't life and death - although he acts like it some days - needs knee surgery). We discussed together that I needed to be with my parents right now, so I go down most weekends because I know that is where God wants me to be and even though its emotionally exhausting, I want to be there too. But my mother in law and some of our friends keep making comments about me never being around. One even said that my husband said that he doesn't know why he got married because he's still alone all the time and I'm gone all the time. I asked my husband about that he denies saying it. So either my friend is lying or my husband is. Both makes me sad. I suspect the truth lies somewhere in between their stories. It's not like I am having fun. I am working 3 jobs to pay the bills and catering my parents. No time for me and that's okay, just the way it is right now. Just don't like people telling me things that make me look like a bad wife. Don't know why it bothers me so much, as long as my husband and I are okay, that's all that should matter. Who cares what the MIL and friends think. I am where I need to be. Just wish I could remind my mind that at night when it races when I am trying to sleep. Anyway, didn't mean to ramble on so much. Thanks for listening! Have a good week!
|
145.2 lb
Lost so far: 9.8 lb.
Still to go: 5.2 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
|
gaining 0.3 lb a week
|
 Comments
Just do what is right in your own heart. You will figure it out!
|
When my father was sick I had to leave my husband and my son, 2yrs old at the time, for sometime a week at a time. I lost my dad and i don't regret any of it. Do what your heart tells you. People around you will learn life is not about "me". It's about doing what is right!
03 Feb 18 by member: Proudmomma412
|
Thank you HCB and Proudmomma412, I really appreciate your kind words of encouragement. It means more than you know. They talked about finding joy in the challenges yesterday at church and that's what I am trying to do. MIL was making comments yesterday and today too and I politely told her that I would like to be home more but I know God wants me to be with my parents right now and hopefully it brings her comfort knowing if the situation ever becomes reversed that we will be there for them. I think I shocked her a little, but I think I got my point across tactfully. I am sure she will still make those comments, but... at least I feel better. :-)
05 Feb 18 by member: Jenny O
|
You handled that beautifully with your MIL. Sometimes people need to be reminded that maybe it will be their turn someday. May your husband and you continue to be strong together.
05 Feb 18 by member: kattay
|
they say" you should never judge a person till you have walked a mile in his or her shoes " therefore Jenny if its Gods will for you to be of a comfort to your dad isnhisntime of need then as you did tell MIL to MYOB and pay more attention to her family and let you worry about yours ! In regards to feeling over whelmed and stressed to the Limit try to find 30 minutes a day to listen to a relaxing meditation video on Utube to clear your mind and release the tension you have been storingnup these past weeks , believe me I start my day this way every morning and it makes me feel totally connected to our creator as well as nature and the Energy all around us 😙🤗
I hope this brings you some peace my Christian Sister hugs Nikki
05 Feb 18 by member: Blazing Babe
|
| |
|
|
| |
Submit a Comment
You must sign in to submit a comment
|
|
|
Other Related Links
Members
|
Jenny O's weight history
|