misterbee's Journal, 25 May 2017

At least you are back on track? It sometimes takes me days to get back on plan!  

I am a great advocate of not letting a heavy day's food get me down, really...I do not worry about it in the slightest, there is no point, I am not on a diet, I am on a lifestyle change plan and even skinny folks have 'binge' days or days where they just eat what is available, and sometimes just what they fancy, they do not feel guilty about it nor do it 6 days a week. As long as my averages are in good health, then my weight loss will continue despite having a bucket of fried chicken or a giant burger or packet of cream cakes, just make sure it is recorded so you can look back, and do not try to deceive yourself, such as not adding the whole entry because you are embarrassed by the fact you have gone over the RDI, it will eventually liberate you to know you can have big full days and still make it work and no guilt or stress.  

Being honest with yourself is sometimes the hardest part of losing weight that any of us face. All the best! 

Indeed Phooka, it has taken me an age to get to this point, I was 20st 8lbs when I realised I needed to put a top to it, I had gotten down to 17st 1lbs prior to that. I have lost a stone before deciding to get back onto FS, currently losing an average of 1 lbs a week consistently, this only started to happen when I stopped cheating myself and took the long view instead of constantly feeling desperate to lose another pound or two. I look at it like this, if I can lose 1lb a week, then I am far less likely to put it back on, and in 1 year I will have lost at least 52lbs, or put another way, 3st 7lbs, ish...and that I would absolutely over the moon with, and when I reach my target, I do not have to change a thing, just keep working to my RDI as best I can as often as I can. I have learned to be happy with 4-5lbs a month on average, anything more and I am ecstatic. I have been going for about 5 weeks now, this being my 6th week on my new lifestyle plan and despite having binged at my dad's bday a couple of weeks back and yesterday's double fast food visit I am still doing ok over the weeks. Today I have been busy with other things so actually, have eaten much less, and this is one of the things I am trying to do, is be more natural with my intake, some days I will eat less, not because I am trying to eat less, but just because it works out that way, other days more, over the week it averages out ok. Best wishes Neil  

well done for being honest with yourself and sharing in your journal glad you have a plan that is working for you :) 

Aye, the plan is a simple one, stop cheating yourself and start making more effort, realise there is no easy option or a magic plan that will make it easy for us, there is no quick success, only consistent commitment to a long term goal. I still do fall off my path sometimes, but what I do not do, anymore, is cheat myself, if I am naughty I just accept I had a moment and move on, I do not let it ruin my week. Success here is as much about attitude adjustment as it is food adjustment, without either we are destined to fail in the long run and keep on failing. I have also discovered, that as bad you think you may have been, record it, because I often discovered, that in my head I was convinced I had eaten 1000 cals more than I should and discovered in fact it was only 200 or something far less depressing. I have stopped letting food make me feel guilty and then using that as an excuse to eat some more. If I did go over by a huge amount, which I did regularly enough for it to be a problem, then I would use it to embarrass myself into not being so greedy. I have also learned, snack or meal, not both, if I eat 3 tubes of munchies then I have to accept that is my food intake, and though I have not used my cals wisely, that's my own fault and I try to live with it and not go over my RDI despite what I may have eaten, after all, I only have a day to get through and tomorrow is a new day, I am not going to die of fatigue or starvation...it don't always work mind you... Neil