Oh no. I hope you and the kids leave if he insists on coming back. I'm so sorry this is happening to you, now. It seems to be a hard year this year. Things will get better. I pray that you have a happy and safe birthday! Yes, them momma bear instincts should be kicking in with them babies, there. I'm glad to hear it for you and them. :) xoxo
13 Dec 08 by member: bullytrouble
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I am so sorry that you are going through all of this. Keep you and your babies safe. Is the car in your name or both of your names? If it is just in your name, I would report it stolen if he takes it again. Can you have the locks changed on the house? I know it seems drastic, but you can't have him coming and going at his leisure. He has not been making the best of choices here lately, and if there are drugs involved, then things could escalate. I know you don't want your little ones around if that happens. I hope I have not offended you in any way with my comments, as these are just my humble opinions. Please remember we are here for you. I will keep you in my prayers.
13 Dec 08 by member: redone750
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Oh sweetie I am SOOOOO sorry!! Nobody should be treated that way!! You are a good mother...remember that...and you will always have your kids!! Hang in there!!
13 Dec 08 by member: tabithahulett
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Being in an apartment, I'm not allowed to change the locks. I already inquired about that. Sucks, right? The car is in my name and I'm very proud of my car. I love it. It took ALOT of hard work to buy that BMW and my rims and my sound system and of course the custom body work. My car's like one of my babies. I'm very proud of it. So when that was missing, I was distraught after the thousands of dollars I've put into it over the last 3 years. I did call the police but he returned before they could find him. They just talked to him...that was it.
13 Dec 08 by member: Reina Estrella
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Oh and since he's legally on the lease, it isn't legal to lock him out. The rental office won't take him off of the lease without his signature. And he will not sign.
13 Dec 08 by member: Reina Estrella
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Perhaps you can go to your local legal aid office Monday about him, and the landlord issue. The police may be necessary as a last resort, I'd use them to call if things get worse. Go seek a lawyer at legal aid and they will be free as soon as you can. Remember he needs help. The cycle will just continue endlessly unless he becomes totally sober... best wishes and blessings to you and your kids...
13 Dec 08 by member: GlennM
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You need to call the police about the drugs then. I hate to say it, but you need to get him out and that will get him out.
13 Dec 08 by member: bullytrouble
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I agree with BT. I know it's hard. We are here for you, but you need to protect yourself and the kiddos. Also I would hide any apartment hunting information so he does not see it if he does comeback in. If you have to move anyway, move somewhere he will knot know.
13 Dec 08 by member: Simavision
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4 words, GET AWAY FROM HIM
13 Dec 08 by member: DLAndrews
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Reina - I know you think the kids need a "daddy" - but this? I'm still in love with women from years ago I let go. A friend in L.A. I miss terribly. These people don't care one hoot about me. It may hurt a lot to let go. Believe me, I'm hurting years later, living in the past as I don't have a girlfriend to take the place of past girlfriends. So I'm finally going out soon to meet new people. Change is always difficult. Take that first step. Be strong. You don't need to be stopped somewhere and have drugs in your car, and they're not even yours. Legal aid will give you advice if you tell them the truth. Best wishes... glenn :)
13 Dec 08 by member: GlennM
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Hey Girl! I just wanted to wish you a happy birthday today. I know you are going through so much right now, but please remember that we are here and we are thinking of you.
14 Dec 08 by member: redone750
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Take care of yourself - and take extra care in getting rid of this guy - he does NOT deserve you and YOU DESERVE BETTER. I hope you can work out your living situation and get an even better place. Sometimes things work out when you least expect it...I hope this is the case for you!
14 Dec 08 by member: nikeit
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Is that one of your little babies in your profile image? How sweet! I know you love your kids very much. I know you will do whatever it takes to keep them safe. God bless you and yours!
15 Dec 08 by member: Cobra Fan
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I agree with BT, report the drugs to the police and they will at least get him out. Get a restraining order to keep him away from the kids because of the drugs and he won't be able to come back. Stay strong.
15 Dec 08 by member: sararay
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Another cute "little munchkin" picture. Adorable. Hang in there!
17 Dec 08 by member: Cobra Fan
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