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Oh my gosh it's been a long time since I've been here....I do hope that everyone is doing well and getting ready for the holiday season! Things are ok here...have been mucho busy with life and family...more working on my issues with my family. Felt the need to come on here and purge so here goes it...my father has decided that I am not a worthy person because I did not have children and instead have a dog. He believes that I think too much of myself and that I have a bad attitude that must surely be affecting me negatively at work...he believes that my 17 year relationship with DH is a farce, but wants me to know that he loves me anyway. It's not like any of this is a surprise to me, but it sure has made me reeavaluate why I keep people in my life who don't deserve to be in it. So, I am still taking care of myself, actually I'm pleased to see that my weight is down from the last time I weighed in...and I have been soul searching a little...just setting real priorities in my life, KWIM? So I apologize to all of you for not being around as of late....and will do my best to stay in better contact. Wow, I really did purge didn't I?? LOL thanks for listening (much love, N)
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Wow, I have to wonder if your dad isn't pretty insecure in himself, if he feels the need to tear you down like that. Sorry you had to hear it, but hopefully you know that is all his problem - not yours. Great job on your loss! Keep up the great work!
25 Nov 08 by member: amryk
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there is no shame in not having kids (even though the majority of people i run into act like i have a disease because i am 41 and childless)...i have two dogs that are more spoiled than their kids...hold your head up...there is not a rule that says you being female have to produce children...im sorry that your dad is so negative...be true to you and your husband first and foremost...take a step back from the family and enjoy "your family"...you have been together 17 years...many people do not make it that long...that in and of itself is a tremendous testimony to your stability...good luck and enjoy your husband and dog and remember that they are your family also
25 Nov 08 by member: veggies yuk
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Is your dad going through anything himself that might have caused his remarks... Im wondering how old he is... dementia? alcoholism? illness of any kind?? Maybe he is lashing out because of mistakes he made in his own past??? Hard to know why some people can say such cruel things, specially to their own children. You do not have to explain such personal choices about whether to have or not have children to anyone...it is no ones business but your own. It's a very personal matter that concerns no one but you and your hubby. YOu have been married for 17 yrs and that in is an accomplishment and compliment in your ability to sustain a healthy relationship. I also hate it when someone tells you something that serves no purpose it seems but hurt or lash out and then follows it with a "I love you anyway". I think I would want to know what made him feel he had to share those thoughts out loud? I still think it sounds like your dad has some major problems himself... whatever happened to "unconditional love" ? You can't let people like that, even family...hurt you. You have to stay confident in your own life choices and who you are. You are doing great at maintaining your weight loss...I wish I could say the same. Im working on it. Glad you could come here to vent...have a wonderul day and maybe go to lunch with hubby! :D
25 Nov 08 by member: Janelleas
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BTW.. it is great to see you back!! Stumps is looking either annoyed or smiling in that bio pic..can't tell for sure!
26 Nov 08 by member: Janelleas
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