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FINALLY back to a "steady" weight after the wedding cupcake/peanut butter gain of about 10 days ago. Whew! Not exactly fantastic, but at least I feel things are moving in the right direction again...this is about a 4-pound loss in about 10 days....luckily part of that was probably water. Now onto 158 (and beyond).
This weekend I received an unexpected call from a neighbor whose husband is laid up again....and this is in addition to his other serious health problems that developed over the summer. Some of you may remember this couple from earlier journals of mine about a year-and-a-half ago. I helped them out again this weekend and I have a feeling I'll be called on this coming weekend, as well. But this time, I'm better prepared to set my boundaries.
With both their health issues having deteriorated, it's even more apparent that they need outside health services. Personally, I doubt that his health will improve very much.....certainly not enough to get them back to any semblance of normality to take care of their basic household needs and shopping. And without his ability to take care of driving and physical things, like carrying grocery bags, she can't meet those needs either. Previous, carefully-worded comments don't seem to have moved them toward getting home health services, and their needs have now increased. Unfortunately, there's really no prospect, that I see, of their situation changing anytime in the foreseeable future.
So I will probably help them one last time, letting them know that I can help on a one-time basis in a true emergency, but I'm not prepared to be a part of meeting these needs on an ongoing basis. I'll try again to gently encourage them to go to home health services, or their family! They truly have many more needs than neighbors, even barely-known ones such as myself, should be expected to meet. A few prayers on their behalf would be appreciated.
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159.0 lb
Lost so far: 76.0 lb.
Still to go: 14.0 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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Diet Calendar Entries for 12 March 2013:
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1246 kcal
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Fat: 68.68g | Prot: 121.86g | Carb: 30.68g.
Breakfast: Sargento cheddar mozzarella cheese stick, Jones cherrywood smoked bacon. Lunch: Breakfast Chicken Sausage, chia seeds (bulk), Kraft shredded colby jack cheese, Pieces & Stems Mushrooms, egg. Dinner: beef patty, Sargento medium cheddar slice, Peru sweet onions, Heinz reduced sugar ketchup. Snacks/Other: cantaloupe, Endulge Peanut Caramel Cluster Bar, Lowrey's microwave pork rinds. more...
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1944 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (exercise) - 3.5/mph - 53 minutes, Resting - 15 hours and 7 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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steady weight
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Oh, I do remember this situation from before, I do feel for you...setting healthy boundaries is best for everybody I am sure, I do hope they can get healthier as to better fend for themselves, as that is probably what they really want too. Good luck!
12 Mar 13 by member: gg-girl
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Thanks GG. Over a year ago, their situation didn't look very promising, but it did improve somewhat for a few months. One can always hope.
12 Mar 13 by member: Sandy701
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Yeah I remember that...I agree they need to get some help..other than you..not that you mind but once you start they can and will take advantage if you let them...will pray they get the help they need..Take care of you too...:O)
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Sandy happy to see that you are getting back on track and I know that makes you feel better. I will send up a prayer that your neighbors get the help they need. You are right you must set healthy boundaries...even when it is hard.
13 Mar 13 by member: jaime30024
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Sorry to hear about your neighbors again. Good idea about the outside health care professional to be called in. There is only so much you can do. You take care of yourself and hope everything else is going well.:):)
13 Mar 13 by member: LauPug1
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Bren, I just don't understand why they're so reluctant to get outside help when they already have outside help for their lawn and some light housekeeping. I guess "this" outside help falls into a different category....reminds us all just how fragile life is. Thanks for the prayers.
13 Mar 13 by member: Sandy701
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Thanks for the prayers Jaime. Ironically, if I felt that their situation would eventually improve, I wouldn't mind helping them a bit more. But, I feel this situation is only going to get worse, so I feel that the sooner they enlist the outside services, the better off they'll be overall and better prepared for their future needs.
13 Mar 13 by member: Sandy701
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Laurie, it's odd, but this time, I feel more relaxed about this whole deal. Sure, I got pretty worked up after getting that phone call, but now, after hearing more about how things are for them, I truly feel that backing away is the best thing I could do for them....hopefully, it makes it more likely that this time they'll reach out to their family and/or those outside services. And, ultimately, having those people and services on board should make the future easier for them to manage.
13 Mar 13 by member: Sandy701
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Yes, it will Sandy and you stand strong for you. HUGS:)
14 Mar 13 by member: LauPug1
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