MrsMagyk's Journal, 28 January 2019

We all have those times when we stumble and hit our knees, or even lower. The key is to remember that it's okay to fall. It's okay to have that breakdown and feel bad for a bit. Just don't unpack and live there. Have your bad moment, cry if you need to, and remember, every minute, at any point of any day, is an opportunity to start fresh and keep making the positive changes in your life. You've come this far, so you know you have the strength to fight! 

Well i am definitely not thinking "oh boo hoo!" i think most here understand it is more than just diet and exercise , it is our minds and how they relate to our bodies! Glad you are seeing your doc. Wishing the best for you -- you are a big inspiration to me! 

You may want to discuss your feeling with your doctor. Could you be depressed? I know when my depression is getting bad, I get very fatigued. Other symptoms are feelings of sadness/hopelessness, lack of concentration and irritability. Just a thought. 

I haven't even lost all my goal weight and I feel this way. I think for me it has to do with lack of sunshine and cold weather, as well as trying to figure out what to do with the rest of my life. Have you added any fun activities to your life to replace "losing weight" as an activity? I know my hobby time has definitely increased as I eat less and have to focus on the job of losing for less time each day. 

You did such incredible change in your life and of course your health. That is something that need to be celebrated. For whatever reason you feel like your not yourself and down just look all the good things you did and think positive. You did such a great job losing all those weights, that is something that you need to focus on and like I said again always have positive mind in all that you do. Good luck! 

I am in agreement with others who seem to be advising you to try to find a new focus. What catches your imagination? What kinds of activities are just plain fun for you? It may be helpful to find a new challenge...maybe something that's not physical, for a change...like learning a second language, or something like that. And yes, talk to your doctor about depression.  

some of that emotional feeling is because you're not "eating/stuffing your feelings down anymore" A little like drug withdrawal.....perk up! You'll come back to yourself, just stay strong, and find things you can enjoy while you let your brain and body adjust! 

You have lost a lot of weight. It is hard to get in touch with the 'new you'. This takes time and you will be exploring what the new you is able to do and wants to do now that the weight is gone. Maintenance is next and needs to be put just as solidly in place as the weight loss habits. People around you, especially strangers, are reacting to you differently than they used to. Your self concept has been partly in response with how people view you as well as how you view yourself. So first of all it is making your 'new body' yours. If you don't you will likely gain the weight back so that things are familiar again. Look at yourself in the mirror more and really see what you look like now so you can incorporate that into your personal vision of who you are. Next your happiness quotient is not related to your body size. It is easy to think "I will be happier when I lose weight' however that just isn't true. You are the same amount of happy unless you have made other changes in your emotional/internal life. I am speaking from experience. Years ago I lost 160 pounds and it was very disorientating. And as you can see I have gained back 100 (now 75!). The gain was not related to the above however the emotions and feelings you describe have a familiar ring to them. My regain was associated with some major emotional eating and some medical issues that are now dealt with. So it is back to the salt mines for me and hopefully time for you to come to terms with the new you!! Good luck! 

Thanks for the post - you have done the work to lose the weight you wanted to. I look at my doctor visits as a way to see how the machine is running. If there are things I need to do differently then we discuss a plan, if things are going well...we talk about that too. My health is key to living to the fullest so I am an active participant in that conversation. Life is an up and down hill adventure - my adventure. I wish you all the best on your adventure.  

I love what 59Carol has said..."first of all it is making your 'new body' yours. If you don't you will likely gain the weight back so that things are familiar again. Look at yourself in the mirror more and really see what you look like now so you can incorporate that into your personal vision of who you are." Real solid advice right there! 

Boo hoo all you need, that's why you have us! Most of us who lost a significant amount of weight know exactly what you're talking about...losing it was your hobby and now you have to find a new one. Don't be too hard on yourself for not feeling well, you don't get mad at yourself for being sick, do you? Just recognize that this is normal and that it will pass. Start thinking about things you used to like doing and push yourself out the door! Eventually you gain back some of the "happy", you just have to get going! Do the same thing that you did when you were dieting...push through even when it's hard, know that you're going to "cheat", and know that when you do cheat you have get right back to business!! Go have some fun sweetie!! 

Thank you for all of your support. I really appreciate it.  

A lot of times we see the weight as the problem and not a symptom. Perhaps now that the weight is off there remains the underlying drive that caused the weight gain from depression or whatever. Find out what makes you happy and try to focus on that, and then dump the rest.  

Hang in there, Mrs.M!! These feelings come and go sometimes, for everyone.