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I know I just wrot a few short hours ago but Iam having a stressful night, Ive barely slept and here it is like 2am and I still awake and have to work at 7am. Me and my boyfriend had a bit of an fight hes out with a friend that has done nothing but try breaking us up for the past year and half, My guy promised they would only be going to a concert at the fair and be coming home and at 1am he is out bar hoping now after he promised he wouldn't, I am not trying to control him and if it was anyone else I wouldn't care. I trust my guy but I don't trust his friend so now i stressing and want to eat so iam trying to keep my hands moving. Sorry for the personal stuff but Iam trying to not stress cause I know that holds weight but its rushing over me.
Any helpful stress reducers Iv already workout
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My counsellor side:
You can't make a man out of a party boy unless the boy wants to become a man. Don't play the victim of the situation otherwise you will continue to suffer in pain because of your unrealistic expectations which will drive you to stress. The pain then becomes internalized rather than properly expressed and is misdirected inward towards self-destructive habits or you give youself permission to indulge or reward yourself. 5 hours sleep is not enough for a healthy human. Losing more sleep won't change the situation. There are only four options in any situation: (1) Change yourself (2) Change the situation (3) Tolerate the situation, or (4) Leave. My recommendation is to stop making your boyfriend responsible for your feelings. Sit down and write out all of your worries right now on one page. Then fold it and put it away and get some rest. Wear earplugs so that you aren't woken up when he comes home. In the morning let him know that you need to talk to him in the evening about some important "feelings" you have about what happened. Meditate and breath before starting your work day and don't drink too much caffeine. Concentrate on work and let your mind focus on the tasks rather than on your tiredness or the previous night. In the evening have a good meal and then choose an appropriate time to sit down and talk with your boyfriend.
My other side:
Sorry to hear this is happening. Life is tough sometimes.
25 Aug 07 by member: jakes
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Bravo jakes, I couldn't have said it better!! Remember anicolet, this is your life, it's all about you! You deserve to to be happy inside an out!!
25 Aug 07 by member: Lez2257
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It sounds like you might want to downgrade that relationship to the "friend" category for a while at least. I'm not sure if this is the case but if the person is making you feel bad all the time, it might be better to take care of yourself a bit more. You are a beautiful woman anicolet, you are the boss! :-)
25 Aug 07 by member: information
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remember looking good and feeling good IS the best revenge! You deserve a night out w/o him and you should do just that! Don't give yourself a reason to eat- you'll hate yourself later! Dont let stress get to you-work out if you need to relieve stress!stay strong!
25 Aug 07 by member: yvvie
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