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Same Old same old.
I bought a new bathroom scale as the old one was dying. So here are this morning's readings...
New Bathroom Scale: 215.6
FitBit Scale: 217.4
Very wide discrepancy between the two scales. I will continue to be conservative although I wish I could record the lower reading. The issue is that if I go with the lower readings I would be all over the place. I will write more later...
Afternoon Update:
Ok, so in reading the comments section I see that part of the commentary is in keeping my head up with the losses. That is True, the hardest thing to see if your weight stay the same or rise. I have hit a hard plateau. Its disheartening but I will persevere. The second comment was on the consistency of scales. My old Bathroom scale was ok but it would register different readings depending where I placed it on the bathroom floor...my floor is tile and uneven in parts in the bathroom. I purchased a FitBit Aria that I keep in my office/basement. The Aria was a perk that I bought for myself to have the weight automatically uploaded to the the FitBit.com sight. I thought I would keep track of the different weights on each scale and report both in my journal. However, I see that it causes me a bit of confusion. SO going forward I will use my FitBit Scale as the official scale. I will keep the bathroom scale for use by my wife and kids whenever their curiosity arises.
Thoughts for the day:
1) Conflict - So, I had an argument with the wife yesterday. I had innocently called her to ask her what she wanted me to order for dinner from the Chinese food menu... she said " What are you going to eat?" I said " Nothing, I am not hungry for dinner", she got mad and said "Why are you skipping Dinner? I don't understand why you want to be Mr. Skinny..." WOW, I mean Are you Serious?! I am 5'8" tall, I currently weigh 217.4 pounds, going down to 180 would not make me skinny, it would bring me to the ideal weight range for my height. I am starting to think she is just looking for reasons to criticize my weight loss. I knew she wasn't feeling well physically so I offered to take care of dinner and she just chewed my head off with the skinny statement. I guess no good deed goes unpunished.
2) Fall Cleaning part Deux - I used my Columbus day off to clean out my closet....I took all my Size 19 shirts and my Size 40 and 42 pants and moved them to basement Closet where I will prepare them to be donated. These clothes were looking so big and they were eating up a ton of space in my super small closet. SO, I took those big clothes and moved them out. I will donate the clothes probably on Saturday. It felt great to move those clothes out and see a thinner closet overall.
3) Neck, There you are! - I walked past a mirror yesterday and I caught glimpse of my neck....may seem like a silly thing but my neck actually looked like a neck as opposed to an extension of my head. I was happy and paused for a second to think about how revolutionary this was. May seem like nothing to most people but for me, it was a great moment...I am a stocky guy...so seeing my neck in that manner was eye opening.
Song of the Day: Behind by Flanders
Cloudy and Rainy in NYC!
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Don't be discouraged. A loss is a loss but now at least you know the true story and you can continue from the truth. Keep up the progress.
09 Oct 12 by member: Peaches804
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I think all sclaes are different - I look for the relative numbers - did it go down ? That's why I weigh on the same instrument daily so I can just see the relative number!
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Updated my Journal. Thanks for the comments and I apologize for not updating yesterday...had a full day yesterday....
09 Oct 12 by member: Hildi72
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I think "the wife" is scared. You are growing (in a figurative way) and she is probably feeling left behind and insecure and worried that you aren't going to love her anymore. And for good reason, I've seen it before, and she probably has too. It's really her issue, and I don't have any advice for you, except to try to see it from her side, and respond as best you can with kindness and empathy for her. The skinnier you get, the fatter and more insecure she feels.
09 Oct 12 by member: Djburney
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HELLO NECK!!! That is awesome. I would share my feelings with my spouse that I need his encouragement and let him know that unasked for assessments were not helping me. I might ask him to let me know what is bothering him and really listen to his answer. Of course this conversation would have to take face to face. :) I only share with you what I have had to do in the past.
09 Oct 12 by member: Neptunebch
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Thanks for the comments. Yes, I know that she is feeling insecure. I try and reassure her, I welcomed her in a grand way when she cam back from her trip but yet I believe she still has doubts. I have spoken to her before but I feel as if she is just not open to my new way of eating. I am not forcing anyone in the family to eat like me but she hates that I don't eat Dinner if I am not hungry. I am not a big breakfast guy and I love lunch..so I try to have a good lunch and then eat very small dinners...I also munch on fruit or nuts as snacks...but she thinks I am starving myself. I just don't get it...
The neck is looking good....In fact I am wearing a 17 1/2 shirt with a tie and I could probably do a size 17 shirt with a tie. Feeling good!
09 Oct 12 by member: Hildi72
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Maybe you could print out a couple days of your diet calendar and show her exactly what you are eating daily - how many calories, how much protein, etc. Say you want to reassure her that you are not starving but trying to get to a "normal" BMI for your height. She may be worried you will be more attractive to other women with you weight loss and this causes her fear.
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Oh and BMI is sometimes unrealistic - for example, at your height of 5'8" and your goal of 180 pounds, you would still be considered in the slight ly overweight range - your "normal" BMI is when you weigh 165 pounds! This is the same for me - My goal weight at my height will still be considered overweight - I would have to go at least 25 more pounds down to be "normal" BMI for my height!
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ummm...i would scold someone for not eating dinner as well. to me, unless you're physically ill, skipping meals repeatedly reads as a sign of an eating disorder. whether you want to admit it or not. i was undereating for the first few months of my weightless 4 years ago, and i'd get just as defensive and mad when someone criticised my eating habits.
09 Oct 12 by member: JessWhatINeeded
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Sometimes, when you are on a plateau for more than a week, it might mean your body needs some "rest" from weight loss and maybe also some extra nutrients. When it happened to me, I have been eating a bit more, but not enough to put on weight and made some changes in my diet, had food I avoided eating because I wanted to loose weight. Try to have a kind of weight "maintenance" break for few days, allow yourself 100-200 calories above your RDI or usual daily cal. intake, try to eat different food. It might help! :)
09 Oct 12 by member: Lizzie983
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A plateau is when your at the same weight for weeks on end. Look at your chart. Your doing amazing. Be proud of your accomplishments. Staying the same weight for a week or more is perfectly normal. Just keep going! The scale will move again.
09 Oct 12 by member: Suzi161
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Wow,you guys are great. Thanks for the helpful comments. Your comments and feedback are why I would not leave FS. PLUS I like to see the female side of things. I will be more open to sharing my thoughts with her and reassure her everything is dandy. Thank you all so much and thanks for reading my journal...
FYI, I am mscular and have a big frame so if I did reach 165 at my body type I'd be skinny. as it is now, I am built like an NFL running back so I have to see when I get to 180 whether it is skinny and I need to get to 190...either way thanks for the BMI heads up...
09 Oct 12 by member: Hildi72
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Sorry for being late to respond, but I am playing catch up since I haven't felt well this week yet. I felt the same way that you did about your neck being an extension of your head. I am so glad to have a neck again! :) When I took measurements, I would measure my neck too, so I could see the inches lost. As far as your wife goes... it reminded me of something that I caught my husband saying when I don't think he was thinking about what he was saying... I had tried on a new dress and went to show him what it looked like and his response (under his breath) was "I am going to lose you". Then he said I looked great and he loved the dress. His slip reminded me that I need to remind him how much I love him all the time and how I want to spend at least another 25 years with him. :)
09 Oct 12 by member: kimjinxie
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BTW when I was married and started loosing weight, my ex husband did not like at all the idea I might have looked actractive again. When he saw I was eating less and better, he started pushing me to try new pastries every night (he was hand making them) so he could destroy my diet plans. He did it also when my best friend was visiting and dieting, he likes to win by tempting people. (the total lack of support for anything I did was one of the reasons that made choose to divorce). Anyway, since you happen to have a good relationship with your wife, remind her that you love her, that refusing her Dinners does not mean refusing her, that by being more healthy you will live longer and will be able to spend more years with her.
10 Oct 12 by member: Lizzie983
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Thanks to everyone for your comments. I just updated today's journal entry (Oct 10, 2012).
10 Oct 12 by member: Hildi72
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