LadyinDenim's Journal, 30 July 2016

He's a troll. I reported him the last time he came back, and he was gone the same day. Report his butt, and eventually he'll get banned altogether. I'm glad you had a balancing moment of goodness.  

I reported him three times. They might be taking Saturday evening off ☺  

He reminds me of the missionaries that keep showing up at my door wanting to introduce me to Jesus. Really? Introduce me to Sean Connery or Sam Elliot, and we might have something to talk about! 

Time for some surgical deleting, Lady... 

You are on FS TPP, taking shots at folks rather than doing something different. What does that say about your life while you are taking shots at others? Back off and find another audience that is interested in your nastiness. There are many ways to offer feedback with compassion and concern rather than indiscriminate hack jobs. Thinking your goal is to be hurtful rather than direct or helpful. Your notes do not elevate you despite your attempt to gain superiority by trashing others. I will not respond in future to your notes, but I am compelled to let LID know that I care. I am not elevating myself but trying to hold to a level of civility that you have ignored. If this is not a place you like I am sure you can find another somewhere on the web that you will fit. 

I deleted them all without reading them. My eyes glanced across some of it. LCHF works and that's why we tell people about it. Fasting works, so we tell people about it. We are not an army or a clique. I won't read him or engage him (if I can spot him). 

I'm glad you deleted those comments. How discouraging to a newcomer to read such unkind ranting. Made me very sad. 

I've seen this guy's rants before under a different name. They're so long and windy before they get nasty that I just glance over them and move one. I'm glad you deleted them, too. 

I'm glad to see this brought up. Last night I didn't respond, but it is so unpleasant to be trashed and bullied. Especially when defending yourself would be to invite a response. I reported it too. It drags down the quality of the experience for everyone. Ugh! I didn't sleep well because of it and it was the first thing I thought of when I woke up. Who needs that! Lady, I'm with you! And so unfair to everyone who is seeking comfort and support. 

I totally agree with you Erika! We are all here to support and help each other! We CAN do this together! 

Eventually, we all see through the veil. Ignore, delete. We get recognition by sharing our journey with each other, and praise each other's success. We comfort one another when it's rough. I've typed journal entries while crying. This poor person is not on that journey. When I was a newcomer, he told me he was here to teach millions of people about his breakthrough in nutrition. Well, I think he should start a YouTube channel or blog, then if he has a theory that produces good weight loss results, we can link to that. As it is, he gets enraged when we link to LCHF resources or to Dr. Fung, or FitterU. It's exhausting. So, ignore, delete, ignore. It's the most compassionate thing to do.  

It's really too bad there is not a way for him to be banned permanently, but I recognize there is no possible way for FS to recognize every conceivable name he can invent. So far he continues to use the same picture so it is easy to identify him, and then we can report and/or ignore him. Don't you wish some people would "just get a life"????? 

Last night and this morning, I actually felt sad for him too. There's something rather tragic about an apparently intelligent and somewhat educated individual being able to reach that age/stage in life and not to be better able to modulate his behavior or sense when it is highly inappropriate and quite possibly harmful to someone in a fragile state. It's sad that he sees anger even where there is none and feels compelled to constantly relive/rehash/resume what he calls battles and which he compares to schoolyard fights. It's sad to see a man in his fifties hurling insults at women for connecting with each other by engaging in social media on a Saturday night. It's horrible to see a grown man not acting like a gentleman at all and taunting someone for how long she has tried to lose weight and keep it off in service to her health, rather than congratulating her on her current state of significant progress. It's dispiriting to see someone ranting on in such a way that you wonder if he's forgotten or refused to take his medication. By no means does any of this excuse his appalling behavior and the manner in which he stomps all over boundaries, but I'm coming to believe more and more that his situation is tragic in its own way. 

I just got a PM from him with the title, "my apologies." I'm like, okay, and opened it. In the first paragraph he said I need to be careful about pushing particular diets because people might talk about me behind my back. He just got a pm today where someone said if I was at goal, people might want to listen more. Then he started in with details of my journals and --- DELETE. Fat shaming and cruel. Never again. 

He started out so nice, and I used to think he was being unfairly judged. Um, nope. I hope he gets some help, but that help will not be coming from me. I am underqualified and this is not the right forum for it. 

Unwanted PMs are inappropriate...you could report feeling harassed. 

Yes, harassed by the "alleged" chemist whom my husband (PhD biochemist0 says is full of bull. 

I submitted three reports already. I'm done. He advised a 370 lb depressed woman with 4 children to go running and volunteer with disadvantaged children. Huh? I hope she logs in again and doesn't quit. She had zero comments on her first two journals and then got Ollie bombed. 

FatSecret is aware of the fact that he's taking advantage of the times when no one is at FatSecret headquarters during the day and on weekends. What they need is a member moderator to keep him in check. I suppose just relaying these facts will bring yet another Oliver tirade down on me. I'm used to it, better him target me, I suppose, than everyone else.  

When he logs on to a newcomer's journal, they don't know to delete it.