laceybug1417's Journal, 06 April 2015

QUOTE: "These people say it's all about self control and discipline... &: ..and we are told it's a good hurt. NO.." END QUOTE. You are right, they are wrong. It is NOT about self control and discipline! We are bombarded with stress, tempted with unhealthy fattening foods, EVERYWHERE.! WE DON'T HAVE TIME required to take proper care of ourselves. (With long commutes, and/or too many things to do). It IS about taking charge, changing habits. TAKING time for ourselves. EATING A HUGE BREAKFAST! (We may think that's counterproductive? but it is KICKSTARTING our metabolism, denying we are in a famine, giving us the fuel we need for the rest of the day, so we don't go into CRAVINGS.) IT IS NOT about INHUMAN SELF DISCIPLINE! :) I'm slim, and lean, with some fat. NOT because I'm NATURALLY SKINNY. ANYONE CAN AND WILL GET FAT WITH THE CURRENT AVAILABLE DIET. (REMEMBER; when I was in grade school, 60 or more years ago, there was only ONE FAT KID IN THE ENTIRE SCHOOL.) AND, about the GOOD HURT. yes it feels good to do a balanced reasonable workout. (I've been working out at clubs and at home gym for over 30 years.) BUT I see SO MANY people at the clubs KILLING THEMSELVES, way OVERDOING IT, and getting no where. Long workouts will burn fat, yes, but only if we are in the fat burning pulse zone! Muscle burns for all the time, while resting! Working out builds some muscle, and muscle is denser than fat, so we look BETTER, even while we weigh more that we expected. Or LOST less than expected. I NEVER shop for groceries when hungry. that's a habit. I always eat a large breakfast, balanced with minerals, micro nutrients, protein, fats, carbs. (carbs are not the enemy, unless we start CRAVING THEM due to NOT feeding our body in the morning and Noon.!) THAT IS THE SECRET! NO STRUGGLE, No INHUMAN discipline! Or super person marathon workouts! Only loving ourselves enough to properly nourish & care for ourselves. Getting enough sleep. getting up early enough for a good large healthy breakfast. Relaxing during the day. Enjoying being alive, and all our blessings :)  

Billtech66 is right on....it is a decision about taking care of ourselves. My DH does not have a weight issue. He can eat whatever and whenever and for years I tried to accommodate his dietary likes and desires to the detriment of my own. It has been a struggle but I finally had to say, "I'm eating my dinner now and when you are hungry, I will fix yours." Yes, it is a bit of a challenge at times but if I didn't take care of me, I would still be eating at 10 PM by his time clock. I also had to learn that I have to eat a certain way....I can't indulge in foods like ice cream, breads, pasta, etc. I have to put my foot down and say, "this is what I eat." It's not about pain and gain...it's about loving yourself enough that whatever changes you need to make, occur. I don't have a formal exercise plan but I move as much as I can every day. And sleep is very important. It probably has been one of the things that has helped me with my current weight loss. I know that if I don't get a good 8 hours, I am not going to be at my peak the next day. Perhaps, you could start looking at little things to change and not looking at everything--diet, exercise, emotional issues, etc. I started with just thinking about my food choices and going to bed earlier...the rest kind of fell in place, like moving and drinking water and journaling. We are all here for you....