It's so easy to obtain instantaneous gratification with so many things that it's easy to get discouraged with weight loss. It's the small steps that make the largest impact though. Those memes all over Facebook ate right : attitude is everything. Congratulations on taking a very powerful step! Good luck on your journey :)
23 May 14 by member: Torzie206
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So true. Selfpity does not get you or anyone else anywhere. But as much as I agree that you need/ should exercise, I am a bit wary about the 'kick butt'. I work out 3 times a week. I give it my all, I work as hard as I can and it makes me feel good :)
23 May 14 by member: schmetterling34
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I think there is a fine line between self pity and treating yourself kindly - one of the biggest steps in this journey for me was learning to love myself and my body - you wouldn't abuse something you loved....it's an ongoing learning curve.....
23 May 14 by member: triaby
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Ah, Tracy beat me to it. Kindness first.
23 May 14 by member: FullaBella
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You are absolutely awesome and an inspiration.
23 May 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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A lot of people mix pity up with love. If you pity someone you are not allowing that person to grow. If you marry someone out of pity you will find yourself miserable or divorced... Pity in the end has got nothing to do with true love. Pity is abuse.
23 May 14 by member: puhpine
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Can't use pity in the same sentence as love. It is an oxymoron.
23 May 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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Way to go Puhpine! Self pity limits a person so much. Getting rid of that pity party attitude opens up the world.
23 May 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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Maybe you can find a spice you like to make the lentil soup a little better. You go girl....empowerment!
24 May 14 by member: Ginsin
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Oooo lentil soup can be amazing....tasty, delish, filling.. let me know if you need a good one I have several.
24 May 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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I am new here, however, you don't have to give up any food.It's all about control! I haven't given up my favorite foods! you also don't have to pity yourself or kick your butt! exercise doesn't have to be painful either! message me and I can give you some sound advice. For everbody else reading this by giving up your favorite food all you are going to do is set yourself up for failure. And what I mean is the more you deny yourself what you enjoy the more you are going to want it. This is why most diets don't work long term. I had to find this out the hard way. anything else just message me. Good luck on all of your journeys!
24 May 14 by member: EJPhillips
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By the way Before starting this and being on here I was 350 lbs back in July of 2010. I went down to 230 Lbs in Dec 2012. Now I gained back 55 Lbs from Dec 2012 to a couple of weeks ago. Now today I'm 280 lbs. I had Bariatric surgery on 20 July 2010.
24 May 14 by member: EJPhillips
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Where I messed up is denying myself what I enjoyed!
24 May 14 by member: EJPhillips
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For many of us, the food we love consists of eating bags of Cheetos, potato chips(me), ding dongs, all the foods that are processed and basically not healthy for you. So, denying ourselves those particular foods is not setting ourselves up for failure. It is setting us up for a lifetime of healthy eating and nutrition.
24 May 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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Right...real food is good. Losing weight and getting healthy is all about choices.
24 May 14 by member: wholefoodnut
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True! But change needs to be slow and besides you don't have to eat your favorite foods all in the same day! just be conscience of what it is you put in your mouth. Give yourself a treat even if it is a serving of Cheetos or a Ding dong here and there.
24 May 14 by member: EJPhillips
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You had surgery. And yet you gained. Interesting. I have a great niece who did the same thing and was miffed because the surgery didn't work. Not accepting the fact she still had to diet and watch what she ate. And as to the ding dong. I have a reputation on this site for loving donuts. And they throw my loss into a standstill. Just 1 donut. And you know, I eat a salad everyday. Spinach with various veggies and love it. Don't miss the sandwiches, chips, pickles, etc. Finding out that's all I need and my old friend Little Debbie was an evil little wench.
24 May 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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The surgery works until the person goes back into the same old habits. To keep it off permanently you still have to be diligent but understand that we eat to live not live to eat! but it's OK to treat yourself and not feel guilty! This is the key! Like I said I had to learn the hard way!
24 May 14 by member: EJPhillips
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Hoping you're on the right track now.
24 May 14 by member: ClassicRocker
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Keep going! One step at a time.. and you'll reach your goal. You gave yourself good advice :) And keep commenting too - let us know your progress. You CAN do it!
24 May 14 by member: pdiberna
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