Mrs. H's Journal, 23 January 2013

I don't see any reason to withold how you are doing on your plan, especially considering that SHE is the one who gave you the plan to follow. Maybe suggest that she switch over to the plan she started you on. I would keep being honest with her and keep up on the positivity, but also suggest possible changes. 

I would sit down with her and discuss what is going on. Make gentle suggestions on how she could possibly tweek her current eating plan. Perhaps it's not what she is eating but her portions could be off. Watching a friend struggle is extremely hard, however through kindness you can show her the truth. Good luck! 

Your doing it together. The main thing is for both of you to keep each other motivated and NOT QUIT! If she is your true friend she should be happy you are doing well. We all lose and gain at different speeds. You don't want to rub her nose in it per say, but a little healthy competition is good too! Keep up the good work and good luck keeping your friend motivated. Like Kitty eared girl says, if her diet is not working she may need to re-evaluate.  

She would have the choice to switch over to the plan your doing if she felt it would work better. With holding your efforts is cheating her of making the best decision for herself. You should just be proud of sticking to it and seeing results. You need to keep being honest and keep being positive, she'll make the right choice. 

I agree...be honest with her, and ask her if there is anything that you can do to help her? Let her know that you are there with her. Is she tracking her foods? Maybe she needs to change plans if hers is not working. Is there a reason that she gave you this plan and did not follow it herself? Good luck. 

I understand your dilemma and was debating the same thing a few weeks ago. I am on this weight loss journey with my sister in law and my mother. Currently I have lost 32lbs in 2 months. They have each lost between 10 and 15lbs. I did start 20 lbs heavier and actually just passed my mom this week. It his hard because I want them to celebrate with me but I feel like I'm rubbing their noses in it, which is not my intention. With my mom I often weigh in at herself, plus she sees me a lot and notices the changes. With my sister in law, she sees me log my changes online, but I don't directly mention it to her unless she asks. Though I continue to try and help them tweak their plans for more success, with the limited knowledge I have. I would say if you committed to telling eachother than you can't go back on that, and you definitely can't lie. Maybe you could suggest lowering the frequency of checking in to weekly if you think it is bothering her. But I say be open and honest and tell her how you feel. Good friends appreciate that. Good luck, and I hope you continue to succeed and your friend finds what works for her.  

Ladies thank you so much!! You've given me a lot to think about and I truly appreciate it. The idea of only checking in once a week is great and I think that's what I will do. I wish I could sit down w/her and discuss this, but she lives in AZ and I live in PA lol so we do a lot through email. Right now we are tweaking her plan, she was logging everything in and I got to see her site and the one thing she was really lacking in was veggies. Plus she is going to do the eat every 3 hours (small meals) and I'm trying to help her keep the calories the same for each meal and giving her meal plans. She was starving her body and I'm sure it will take a while before her body gets the hint that she's not starving it anymore. She was doing the HCG and only consuming 500 calories a day! I'm sorry, but you can burn that much in your sleep and that is NOT HEALTY!! I also know that it will be up to her as far as the honesty and determination to stick w/it and not cheat and give it a 100% fair shot. We've always been blunt honest w/each other so like you all said I will continue to be that way with her. Again Thank you so much you guys are the BEST!!! 

Oh Mrs. H knowing what plan she was on explains a lot. You are so right; her body was in starvation mode. I hope you can help her get on a healthier path that will show better results.