|
My in-laws have left us alone since the holidays. They didn’t speak to hubby at all except to ask him if he wanted pie when they asked everyone else. Spoke to me a little. They didn’t say happy birthday online to my middle child or call or text or anything until they invited themselves to an event and tried to drag her off (I stopped that immediately as they corner the kids and have asked them to dish on us and lie to us). They said happy birthday online to my oldest however. The oldest so the kid with the biggest problem with them as they compare her to a cousin every single time we speak to them. Honestly there’s no comparison and they are looking for a way to boost this cousin up in their own minds but children just see that they are being put down constantly and never as good as someone else.
Thankfully I ate a cupcake while making them for my youngest’s class. When I read the comment I flipped a bit. Intentionally leaving out our most sensitive kid for a week is so not cool. If they’d have done it to both then it wouldn’t have mattered as much. No way can I let the middle know or she will be in tears again. If not for that cupcake that didn’t sit well I wouldn’t have been able to put the junk food away. I’ll grab some jerky before bed but when agitated here lately I’ve started eating more. So I’m sitting on my phone because I don’t trust myself and I just restocked all the snacks for the kids. So many of my favorites sitting in that drawer!!
I asked my counselor the other day if I should reinvite ‘them’ to an event because they have respected our wishes the last two weeks and haven’t bombarded us or made threats and stuff. NO, don’t you invite them or they’ll start back up again! Was her response lol. Told me I’m basically too kind but I can’t use a reward system because it’s never worked in the past. *sigh* I just want to have a few things where they aren’t around, have them respect us and our boundaries, stop comparing our kids to others in a negative way, stop being asshats and generally just act like they don’t live up the road and treat us like doormats. Seems that’s too much to ask as my counselor says I haven’t learned the cycle yet and that they are all or nothing people. So I’ll be happy with ‘nothing’ for them and ‘all’ for us :). Wow just typing that out and now I don’t feel the need for a snack! My watch says my heart rate has lowered too! I really need to start another journal!
Think I’ll read then head to bed!
Diet Calendar Entries for 11 January 2019:
|
1273 kcal
|
Fat: 65.36g | Prot: 83.52g | Carb: 89.82g.
Lunch: Marketside Lemon Pepper Rotisserie Chicken. Dinner: Pizza Hut 14" Large Cheese Hand-Tossed Style Pizza, Taco Salad . Snacks/Other: Carnation Fudge Kit without Nuts, Sprite Sprite (20 oz). more...
|
|