kathleenscanlan's Journal, 08 August 2016

found this blog ; my sentiments exactly::
So, I’ve danced around this subject before on my page. But in my effort to be kind about it, I may have not been direct enough. So it’s time to be blunt.

Low carb purists, you’re not helping!!

Phew! That felt good to say.

I often wonder why have some become so rigid about low carb? Although the vast majority of folks out there are happy, successful low carbers (this post is not really for you…keep up the awesome work!) some have become so obsessed with low carb.

There are some people who may NEED to be strict with low carb because they have a disease which requires it, those for whom excess carbs can cause an imminent, maybe even life threatening, problem, (such as those with an absolute insulin deficiency.) That’s not who I’m about talking about. Also, being strict with YOURSELF is not the problem. I am strict with myself. The problem is when you impose your standards on others.

The majority of us don’t have imminent, life threatening conditions. Often we are using low carb to address a chronic problem. We chose low carb to lose weight, control our blood sugar without any medication, or just because it is a healthy way to eat and makes us feel great!

Yet some folks have become so rigid that they cannot accept anything but perfection from themselves (which is their choice) OR ANYONE ELSE (which is the problem), especially people they know nothing about on social media. Some of these folks LOVE to comment and are quick to set others straight about what they should or shouldn’t be doing, about what low carb IS and what it ISN’T.

And you know, often these are really genuine-hearted folks with good intentions wanting to help other people. But when one makes disparaging remarks to others, IT IS NOT HELPFUL OR ENCOURAGING. Some people probably just found this page today and it is their first exposure to low carb. So please don’t comment as if all people should be where you are NOW, when you’ve been low carbing for a decade, you’ve read 50 books on the subject, you’ve honed your program, and have learned from your mistakes over time. Give everyone the courtesy of doing the same and support them instead of criticizing them.

It’s like one time I read an article that said unless all your produce was organic, your meat grass fed and your eggs pastured, you weren’t truly paleo. Really?

Here are some other comments I have seen…and my thoughts, lol…

“Normal fasting blood sugar is below 85; 87 is NOT normal fasting blood sugar.”
My thoughts? What if a person used to have a fasting blood sugar of 300? I bet they think 87 is just fine!

“My fasting blood sugar is 81. Should I fast to get it below 80?”
My thoughts? Really? There are way better reasons to fast than 2 points in your blood sugar. You’re no longer the “before” you’re the “after.” You’ve made it…enjoy!

“Low carbers don’t eat onions.”
My thoughts? I’m a low carber, I eat onions…

“Nobody should be deducting carbs from broccoli.”
My thoughts? Are we really debating 2g of fiber?

“Almonds have polyunsaturated fat, we shouldn’t eat them.”
My thoughts? You are more than welcome to avoid them. I, however, am about to dive into a Fathead pizza.

“6g of carbs is too much sugar in a meal.”
My thoughts? Not for me…

“You let your kids eat carrots?”
My thoughts? Sure do! Try not to report me to child protective services please.

I understand wanting to be in control of your health. We ALL want that. But when I feel myself getting too opinionated about low carb, I often have to step back and ask myself “there are still war and poverty in the world, right?” There are much bigger issues than a blood sugar of 101 or whether to go by total carbs or net carbs.

So for those that have become so rigid, I understand you may have good intentions, but really, it is not helpful to others. I’m willing to bet that the stress you are causing yourself might kill you faster than a carrot. So, by all means, be in charge of your health, but please don’t presume to be in charge of others’ health.

This page has two guiding principles that I do not waiver on… 1) eat real, whole food 2) limit carbs to the point where you can maintain optimal health markers, whatever that means to each person. Other than that, each person will be given the courtesy of finding what is right for them…and they will be supported in doing it.

I do not promote perfection, especially in others. We are all going through struggles no one knows. A wise quote…”The pursuit of excellence is gratifying and healthy. The pursuit of perfection is frustrating and a terrible waste of time.”
160.8 lb Lost so far: 46.2 lb.    Still to go: 38.8 lb.    Diet followed 100%.

Diet Calendar Entries for 08 August 2016:
892 kcal Fat: 65.00g | Prot: 71.84g | Carb: 0.76g.   Breakfast: Butter (Salted), Coffee, Land O'Lakes Heavy Whipping Cream. Lunch: Ground Beef (80% Lean / 20% Fat, Patty, Cooked, Pan-Broiled). Dinner: Boiled Egg, StarKist Foods Chunk White Albacore Tuna in Water (Can), Hellmann's Real Mayonnaise. more...
1853 kcal Activities & Exercise: Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 1 hour, Resting - 15 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
steady weight

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Amen 
08 Aug 16 by member: Non1953
Diet is a personal battle, not a competition with others and it seems these diet wars lose sight of that fact.  
08 Aug 16 by member: 1point21gigawatts
Excellent way to put it, Phil!! Everyone has to find what will work for them, in terms of weight loss, medical issues, and simply what one can live with.  
08 Aug 16 by member: pandasmom
nice post. I have struggled with every imaginable diet and program...and what works is eating quality food, not too much of a good thing, move more and really eat what you want, stop when you are full and as you make better choices your body stops craving the crap. An occasional ice cream or few chips will not kill you and make you a failure. I realize people have triggers as well, so then by all means stay away from them. Good luck to you! 
08 Aug 16 by member: iulani
Great post! I've had some of the same thoughts sometimes when I read some of the posts here. Do what's best for you, offer support to others, and accept support when you need it, keep the criticisms to yourself because none of us know exactly what's happening in somebody else's life. 
08 Aug 16 by member: PhillySue
Very true - we all have our own paths. 
08 Aug 16 by member: HCB
thank you for this great reminder!! we're all in this together to [hopefully] support each other, not put others down. 
08 Aug 16 by member: berley1
Don't put up with put downs! Ignore, delete, report! We want a supportive, civil community here! 
08 Aug 16 by member: erikahollister
Perhaps you could directly speak with those who may be single minded with you. There are folks who seem to take a singular position, and your post will hopefully offer them something to consider. I think some here speak with absolutes with passion and it comes out judgmentally when they are really speaking of their own process. Not offering excuses for them but I try to take it in context that folks are trying to offer their help and support, jumping into it without thoughtfulness. Weird how sometimes feel kind of "left out" of the discussion as I am not following a restricted carb plan. Take care of you by taking your own path. 
08 Aug 16 by member: JJohnso

     
 

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