Spouse, your mother, family members in general are obligated to tell you how lovely you look. So it doesn't ring true. A stranger giving you a flirty look, or someone walking past you on the street who says "Wow! Great dress!" is spontaneous appreciation and feels legit. Keep dropping pounds, find your waist, grow your hair long, and draw inspiration from photos of hotties in People Magazine (try out new clothing styles, hair color, etc.). The fun part about getting fit is the makeover!
20 Apr 17 by member: soonsoonsoon
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you can drop down to whatever number you think will be attractive, but it will never work until YOU feel beautiful no matter what the scale says, no matter what anyone says. People are drawn to confidence. not labels or sizes. You are funny and smart. and though Ive never seen a photo, I already know you are BEAUTIFUL. so, when are YOU going to accept that and start acting like it ?
20 Apr 17 by member: evil1nside
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I love your posts. You can laugh at yourself and that is something a lot of people can't do. Love yourself no matter what you look like. That makes a beautiful person. and FYI, just because you're on a diet, doesn't mean you can look at the menu. Check out the hunky men because I'll bet they're checking you out too.
20 Apr 17 by member: mickfan1
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We don't fancy everyone we meet - and friends well - I don't really see them as male or female. The kid hanging on to your leg and the 2 (is it) shows that someone found you sexy 3 times at least. Wait 'til you're like me and got loose skin with belly button down near your pubes - then when you're husband tells you - or doesn't - that you're beautiful it puts a spring in your step - wish it would happen to me. lol
21 Apr 17 by member: minitata
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How we feel about ourselves is more important than anything. You should be proud of your progress and celebrate it. I started off rewarding myself with workout clothes for every 10 pounds, massages, etc. Don't invest too much into your Victoria's Secret wardrobe, though - soon enough those will need to replaced, too!
21 Apr 17 by member: RiverRes
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Good journal, I can even visualize the cow poop on your forehead! You are beautiful no matter what - we are just ambushed with the ideas that we all need to look like Hollywood/model images. We need to just be us!
21 Apr 17 by member: aggie95
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21 Apr 17 by member: dandie0
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you paint such a great picture. I'm still smiling😁 and for the record you are totally beautiful without even seeing pictures. you shine from the inside out!
21 Apr 17 by member: dandie0
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Your journal entry has put a smile on my face! I can relate to everything you said. You go girl.
21 Apr 17 by member: Sherri Baldrow
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21 Apr 17 by member: jparlett
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Aww, tell your Id to tell your Super Ego to tell your Ego to relax. Did you consider the possibility that the guy you had lunch with is gay? If you haven't considered the possibility just assume he is, then it makes perfect sense!
21 Apr 17 by member: @philrmcknight
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This is exactly the way we should all view ourselves. With a bit of humor, grace, humility and strength. And not just those on a weight loss journey, but everyone. You are beautiful in my book. =)
21 Apr 17 by member: varahn.tet
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Do you want to get back to your bride weight? If that is when you looked and felt your best, then that's the size you should aim for (or within 10 pounds of that).
21 Apr 17 by member: soonsoonsoon
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The guy you had lunch with knew you were married, right? Perhaps he was just drawing a clear boundary so as to make sure it was clear that there was no possibility he would become involved with someone married. It may have nothing to do with looks whatsoever. In any event, looks are superficial. Its what is inside that matters. Congrats on the weight loss, Hot Momma.
21 Apr 17 by member: 2ManyCurves
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A guy will flirt or look appreciatively at an attractive woman, married or not. F.S. members will all rally behind you and support your inner beauty, which lumps them in the same category as Spouse, BFF's, and family: obligated to be kind. But do you check out guys with overhanging beer guts and comb-overs, or do you stare appreciatively at the man with washboard abs? I'm going to be real with you, because you stated a problem, and you want a fix.
21 Apr 17 by member: soonsoonsoon
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Unsolicited compliments can be liberating and appreciated but some women tie their worth to attention from the opposite sex unless they are gay. It's easy to get tied up in outside sources of validation. But it's within you. It isn't wrong to appreciate outside attention but getting discouraged from a lack of it isn't healthy. You might want to think about that.
21 Apr 17 by member: rockettmanpro
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Some of us have certain cues, often visual, that push our buttons. Not necessarily the standard Barbie look. Hair color, jaw shape, butt shelf, eye shape, height, all kinds of things besides waist measurement. And some of us work hard to keep it (flirting, etc.) completely turned off when we are around a married woman, or women in general if we are married, lest we create a bad situation. On the other hand, I know it was easier for me to stick to a weight loss program when I was single and looking to attract the opposite sex. Which makes compliments from others seem more important now, especially from my wife. Probably because she grabs me; most others don't.
24 Apr 17 by member: TomLong
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FWIW ... I have found that the men who are attracted to me have typically been attracted to me when I was 230lbs and when I was 160lbs... and the ones that weren't were not attracted to me at any weight, big or small. Attraction is a mysterious thing.
28 Apr 17 by member: Z'sMama
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