icymaiden's Journal, 21 September 2011

I'm with you Icy. I walked into work today to two of my co-workers having a "heated" discussion. Just wanted to go back to the car and head home.  

First - congratulations! Second - I'm pretty sure if I looked in the mirror, I'd see you! :) I totally understand. It is so frustrating. 

Other people are seem to easily dismiss the idiots around them and not let others stupidity affect them. I need to know how they manage that, cause I can't seem to get past it.  

Yay on the 130's....and to answer your question, "it is just plain easier to be stupid." Mental lazimess is exactly the cause of most of this country's woes...everyone wants someone else to do the thinking. I know you won't compromise and neither will I...after a while it comes as no surprise so I just let it go and think "moron." Ain't nice but it keeps me from being totally frustrated.  

Gwen I've never been the lazy person. In grade school I was the over-acheiver. I push myself hard, in everything I do. Even though it occurs daily or some days hourly I'm still even after 40 years surprised at people being lazy or illogical. I stupidly always assume people are smart, hardworking and do gooders. And I'm dissappointed daily to find my assumptions are wrong. I can call them morons in my head till the cows come home, but it doesn't make me less frustrated, in fact it makes it worse for me. I don't get how other people can just not be outraged to the point of being angry every day that so many others out there are naive, lazy, ignorant. I wish I didn't care that people I don't know are this way, but I want them to NOT be that way. So when they dissapoint me I don't know how to just let it roll off my back. To do so would be like me saying it's OK that people are this way, and it's not. It's like accepting and normalizing these destructive behaviors instead of shunning them. 

Unfortunatly you cannot fix stupid. is it annoying? God yes it is. but sometimes you just have to take a step back and remember you can't fix stupid. 

That's my problem Pixi, I don't know how to step back. I don't know how not to care that the world is going to hell.  

It took me a long time to get past how stupid ppl can be. I think for me it was when I almost had a mental break down because I couldn't handle it anymore. They still bother me but I honestly just tell myself its not my problem that they are stupid. 

Icy, I, too, have been an overachiever all of my life. In my comment to you I wasn't saying that I could easily think that our entire human race are morons...as I know that there are many, many wonderfully productive, thinking individuals out there. I guess what I was trying to say was that when I am confronted by one individual and have tried to share my feelings to no avail, that I have to sometimes think "moron." I worry deeply about what is happening in our world today and can't understand for the life of me why people don't "wake up." And it always goes back to mental laziness...it is just easier to veg out and pretend it isn't happening...I feel for you and your pain. Most days I, too, battle the torment of watching things happen and feeling so limited. In your question you asked, "why can't everyone else?" That, my dear, was merely an answer, not my personal belief. I pray every day that people will wake up before it is really too late.  

Pixie, I can't go the "it's not my problem" route because if everyone just thought that way nothing gets solved or done. If we all shirk our worldly responsiblities how does that help anyone? I might get to the point where you have been (mental breakdown) I feel it everyday. Gwen you sound just like me. I realize not everyone in the entire world is stupid or evil and when I express myself about these type of things I do generalize, which I shouldn't do. So I knew what you were saying without the extra explaination :) And yes, just like you I want people to Wake up! What i don't get is why more people aren't outraged enough to wake up everyone else who isn't. This country used to be full of people who could pull themselves up by their bootstraps, dig in, and get stuff done when we set our minds to it. Now all I see is people wondering "who's gonna do this for me" instead of "what can I do to make it better" When did we go from the I'm strong enough to do it myself attitude to the someone else better do this for me attitude?  

By the way, thanks to all of you for listening/reading my non diet related rant. I wish I could afford a therapist, but I cannot, so this site (and others) tend to get a work out when I'm unhappy mentally. Thank you all for letting me express myself. 

I Never shirk my duties and I usually bring up the issue I have with the stupidity but you can only do that for so long. I know at my old job I constantly was covering for stupid mistakes and things and it really did lead to a mental break down. I do know that it took a good therapist to make me see how to make stupid accountable.. which is really harder than you would think. I do get where you are coming from because I like to do things right the first time with out having issues. I guess saying "its not my problem" was the wrong words but you need to make the people that are making the mistakes, or being stupid the responsible party.  

Ah yes, accountability. That is what is missing. When I'm at work, I'm the first one to go "opps, I screwed this up" to my boss. Others, deny deny deny. It just makes them look like liars. But the problem with that is, the higher ups just kinda shrug shoulders and say "what can you do" and do nothing. Sure they could fire the people, but they are highly skilled, and to replace them and keep customers happy and money incoming doesn't seem possibleto them. I can make suggestions, but I'm not in charge, and those in charge would rather let the bad apples do their thing, then face the huge change of replaceing them and their knowledge. And it's not just work either. Like I'll be driving down the road, and my offramp is backed up. So I get in line way back to the backup, while other self entitled jerks zip past and cut in line further up. And they get away with it, cause there is nobody cares to enforce the rules. And the rulebreakers seem to have no conscience about putting themselves ahead of everyone else who was doing the right thing by waiting their turn. It's stuff like that that drives me nuts. I'm a good person, I follow the rules, and get nothing, and the people who break the rules, also get nothing. It's so hard to be so upright when I see others not giving a damn about doing whats right for the masses instead of just themselves. 

The other real corker is...being stupid isn't even illegal! 

Oh, I am so sorry, I meant to congratulate you on the 130's, but got so caught up I almost forgot the most important part. Wooo Hooo for you!! 

Lol, thanks gg. I should try to focus on the good parts of life, somedays it's harder than others. Being in the 130's is very important. I feel healthier, I look better and I look younger (according to what people have said to me) 

Icy - I have been going through the same thing myself. It is very difficult when your acquaintances or friends might be doing things like causing trouble. I know I need to humble myself, I was an overachiever until about 7th grade, #1 student, etc. and life happened and I lost one career and I am trying in the next months coming up to get the writing career off of the ground. I have also been saying lately, it is 'their' stuff, not mine. There is a lot of negativity nowadays as many people have been losing jobs or settling for low-paying jobs after having lost their career and it is having - what I see as a snowball effect on EVERYONE around them. It has got to the point where one needs to isolate themselves much of the time to stay away from other people's personal garbage and lately there seems to be a lot of it. Also, the prices of things are going up - more than they're saying to the public, and wages aren't doing the same. One could live much more easily ten years ago on way less. That is not good for the society as a hole - and on top of that those who ARE succeeding quite well are stressed out to the max often living beyond their needs too. Let it go, whatever it is with someone and someone else and their issues are not yours if you don't let it be - it is so hard to do. A friend sent me a nasty letter today, swears, etc. I realize I am growing as a person because I let it go fairly quickly - while years ago I would have held accounts in my head against this person for how long? Try to be around people who lift you up, not drag you down, best wishes... 

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