debrafrederick's Journal, 02 December 2023

Good Morning! So a friend of mine from Texas posted this this morning and since it's along the same lines as my latest theme, I decided to share it.

Something to think about....
What if you were a single parent with a child . You work full time for $14.00 hr. You bring home roughly $800 .00 per paycheck (bi-weekly).
Your bills:
$1, 000 . 00 / rent
$150 .00 / electrical
$250 .00 / car payment
$150 .00 / car insurance
So let’s do the math :
You bring home about
$1,600 .00 a month & your bills average about $1,550.00 (give or take).
You’re making it, but barely.
This doesn't even include groceries, internet, cable, cell phone, etc .
(nor does it include child tax credit, or child support)
Now, it’s a really cold December and you get a power bill for $600 .00
How do you pay that?
To put it simply , you don’t.
Because you can’t.
So your power gets shut off.
But you know what your lease says?
It says you get evicted if your utilities are terminated.
So now you’re in court crying to a judge who doesn’t care, & you have 10 days to get out.
Well you’re in luck, because you found somewhere with 3 days to spare & it’s only $650.00 a month!
But to get in, you must pass a background & credit check. Which you can’t because you just got evicted.
You’ve never been a criminal, but even if you could pass it, you’re looking at $1300 to move in, after paying the deposit & first month’s rent.
Time’s up ....
Landlord shows up at 7am with the police & changed your locks.
So, now you’re living in your car with your 7 year old son & everything you need to get by.
You tried to get a storage unit, but you don’t have a billing address so they won’t rent one to you. So you could only take what would fit in your backseat.
You pay to shower at local truck stops & eat whatever can be cooked in a gas station microwave.Someone sees you & your son living like this & calls C.P.S; guess what happens next ? ? ?
They remove your child from your care.
As if this isn’t devastating enough, you lose your job too. (Because “an employee losing their child reflects poorly on this company .”)
So now, you apply for an apartment with the region where the waiting list is 3-7 years.
Then you go into Wal-Mart to put in an application.
When you get back to your car you see that your back window has been smashed & someone helped themselves to your belongings. Remember that it is December & really cold. Now you have damage to your only shelter.
You call your car insurance, who says your deductible is $1,000.00
~ AND ~ they’re going to increase your monthly rate since you’re now
“ high risk .”
You call the homeless shelter as a last resort & all their beds are full.
I’ll stop here .....
Because I think you get the point .
The people we work with everyday are these people .
WE ARE THESE PEOPLE .
We are all so close to homelessness & don’t even realize it .
All it takes is :
* one unexpected bill📃~
* one fender bender🚙💥🚗~
* one lay-off 📊~
* one house fire 🏠🔥 , etc.
Instead of talking trash about people who are poor , homeless , or need assistance , why don’t you try being grateful that you’re not in their shoes ...... YET !
This is about staying humble & being kind .
BE THANKFUL FOR WHAT YOU HAVE ❤ (copied)
We Are All Struggling In Different Ways.. 😭😩

Diet Calendar Entries for 02 December 2023:
1327 kcal Fat: 68.89g | Prot: 102.35g | Carb: 79.28g.   Breakfast: PB2 Foods PB2 Pure, Badia Chia Seeds, Nutricost Grass-Fed Whey Protein Concentrate Unflavored, Hershey's Special Dark Cocoa Powder, Bob's Red Mill Flax Seed, Silk Pure Almond Milk - Unsweetened Original, Land O'Lakes Heavy Whipping Cream, Coffee. Lunch: Chicken of the Sea Sardines in Water. Dinner: Hormel Original Pepperoni Slices, Kirkland Signature Supreme Cauliflower Crust Pizza. Snacks/Other: Water. more...
2667 kcal Activities & Exercise: Standing - 1 minute, Resting - 15 hours and 59 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...

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Thank you so much, Debra, for sharing this. 💙 
04 Dec 23 by member: unity1234
Thanks for sharing, Deb. Glad we made it, sis! 💜🫂 Lots of people have a story, but many are ashamed to share it. I will never hide my story, because it may just help someone along the way even if it's to let them know that they aren't alone or that there is hope for a better future if we keep pushing. Giving up or giving in is not an option.  
04 Dec 23 by member: ZenusWarriorPrincess
Funny thing is Zen.....I thought everyone lived like that, everyone I knew did. It was not until we left my home town in 1985 that I discovered that the way I had always lived was dysfunctional, I grew up, learned a different way to live and when I go back to visit my family....I just shake my head...Mom and Dad are gone now but my Little Brother is an abusive drunk and drug addict, so are both of his kids, nothing has changed for them. So many of my high school friends still live that lifestyle, they never left, they never saw a better way....I feel badly for them. 
04 Dec 23 by member: debrafrederick
@Deb, I knew things weren't right when I started watching "Leave It to Beaver" & "The Cosby Show"...lol. That was after I had moved in with my grandmother, of course, because I wasn't allowed inside too much when I lived at home. Things were better there, but still pretty bad. Most of my friends went through alot of the things I did, because they were children of my parents' friends. Most of them turned out the same way. I only had 1 sibling, a sister who passed away a few years ago. All of our aunts & uncles either were the same way or moved far away. The ones that were the same passed away when I was little, and the ones who did better pretty much disowned the ones who didn't. I became the elder of what I consider my family, which is only my kids & grandkids and my sister's kids & grandkids at 42 years old.  
05 Dec 23 by member: ZenusWarriorPrincess
My dad & I did reconcile after I had my first child, but there wasn't any financial help. I forgave him completely for some unforgivable things, but I had always wanted parents so bad & I felt like he was truly sorry. He died about 7 years later. My mom, not so much. She would say she was sorry, but was still on the same 💩. I forgave her after her death because I knew that was the only way that IIIII could have inner peace. 
05 Dec 23 by member: ZenusWarriorPrincess
My Dad was sober for the last 10 years of his life, but he was diagnosed late as being bi-polar and a paranoid schizophrenic. The doctors believed that his earlier drinking was self medicating. Mom never changed, she spent all of her time screaming at him, then when he died, she turned all that screaming onto my little brother and he started hitting her. I had to go pack her up and move her here to GA with me after she had a heart attack. I was very angry at my brother for hitting her and making it necessary for her to have to leave her home. Then I got a dose of what he had been getting, I have not forgiven him for raising his hand to her one more than one occasion but I do have a better understanding of why he might have done it. She was awful. We busted our butts and emptied our savings account to buy her a used mobile home, we remodeled everything inside, fixed it up real nice.....she hated it, complained about everything. I would cook and I always took her a plate, she complained about my cooking, screamed at me and gave me cussings when I did not do exactly what she wanted, when she wanted it done. She would call me at work screaming and crying because my little brother called her and told her this or that......she wanted me to bring him here too. Not no but HELL no. I can't deal with him and he can't be trusted with ANYTHING. He sold her car to some drug dealer one day when she loaned it to him while they were in Texas. Had to jump through some serious hoops to get it back and they slit all the tires and I had to buy her a new set. And she wanted me to bring him here? To my home? NOT HAPPENING! So the years from 2015-2021 were visits to hell for me, but as least I could walk away from her and lock my doors inside my own home. She was a co-dependent without a dependent. She called her sisters and told them that Charley and I were abusing her and keeping her prisoner. I had given her my car for crying out loud. When my Aunts confronted me about it, I told them what had been going on and I told them I would sign my car over to her and give her the money to go back to Texas if they would give her a place to stay.......I had no takers. The last year of her life, she viewed me as the enemy and she had dementia. I did have to take her keys away from her after she went to town one day and then got brought home by the police. She had locked her keys in the car and she called the police to come get them out, but she was so agitated and abusive to the cops that they decided she was not fit to drive and she would not give them my phone number to call me, so they brought her to the address that was on her license. It was just a mess, they were very kind and told me that she was having some sort of mental issue and should not be allowed to drive. She went way off the rails after that, would not let me in her house. She ordered her groceries from Walmart and sent me the pickup times and I would go pick them up, I'd knock on her door, but she would holler....leave them on the porch, I'll get them. Then she fell the morning after Thanksgiving. That was the beginning of the end, she was gone by January 2022. A part of me misses her and a larger part of me feels relief. I still have issues with this. 
05 Dec 23 by member: debrafrederick
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