tr3vi28's Journal, 13 August 2023

It sounds to me like this person has problems, and you don't need them to become yours. I'm so sorry about your daughter's tooth; my son did the same when he was a child and it was quickly and easily repaired, hope hers will be the same. 

Hope your daughter is doing ok. I wouldn’t bother approaching the friend, bad behavior in adults (and a parent to boot!) is not your responsibility to fix. 

Shir yes she actually does have serious problems so does her daughter unfortunately I had mentioned once in the nicest way possible to get professional help and she instead distanced herself. I noticed a year in to our friendship and now feel attached 😕 😔 but not her she's been avoiding me for about 3 months and excluding my child from group play dates with the neighbors. I live in a private community and any birthday or parties we both are invited she's basically unavoidable. I do I end this with out it becoming awkward? About the tooth I feel like I failed my daughter she got hurt when I was 1 minute away and I couldn't do anything 💔 my son broke his tooth the same way during a basketball game they tried their best to fix it but he then kept grinding it and damaged the new tooth. What procedure did your son have? 

Softlife she is so far I gave her medicine applied neosporin cold pack and she even had a snack. I on the other hand been crying ever since 😢 I know this is not weight related but for me it becomes a binge eating problem because I'm an emotional eater and any advice can help. I just can't believe this person I believed to be my friend packed her things and left that is by far the most cold hearted apathetic thing a person has ever done to me even strangers stepped in. I feel she should know our friendship is over and why I like closure all because she had a date with a guy she just met on top of that she assisted my guest instead with removing possible contact to poison ivy. 

do you mind me asking the purpose of finding the piece of tooth?  

I was told if put in a glass of milk overnight they can reattach it and it would be a less expensive procedure I don't know if it's true but wanted to try atleast than stand there hopeless at 8pm at night when all dentist offices were closed until this morning. Taking her to a hospital would've been useless as well. 

Just give yourself a big hug. She is not worth all of this grief. She is a, well a not a nice word. Do not bother with her again. She is being quite rude. At least her daughter had the politeness to offer to help. Sometimes you just have to cut your losses. The ties that bind. She apparently did not want to really continue the friendship. I understand emotional eating. I have been binging for the last few days and have added 5 pounds. Don't do this to yourself. She isn't worth it. Be nice and not snotty to her, but don't invite her to anything again. Her loss, not yours. This is a learning experience. Big hugs. Yes in some cases the tooth can be saved when put in milk. Depends on where it was broken. Sorry to hear about your daughter's angst. 

Im sorry you had this happen and I hope your daughter is ok..I wonder if she has other issues that we don't know about? Sounds like she might not be able to show empathy..I would just distance myself from her as much as possible but don't expect her to apologize , those types of people usually don't think like that.. 

tr3, unfortunately, this happened about 50 years ago and I don't remember what the tooth repair entailed. With two active sons, there were frequent stitches, a number of broken bones and several chipped/broken teeth. Somehow we all survived, thank goodness. I hope the repair turns out well for your daughter; I'm sorry your son had a problem with his tooth. As for your neighbor "friend," you cannot control her behavior, but you can choose how you react. If it were me, I would treat her politely, but make no effort to continue associating with her. I'm sorry if your daughter is being left out, but hopefully she will make other friends. All we can do is teach our children to be kind and empathetic to others. 

Thanks guys so much I knew I wasn't wrong and most times I blame myself for any relationship ending but you see it too that puts me at peace with myself. I did have to get it off my chest and not bottle it up in order to move on and wrote her a lengthy text not insulting but just letting her know I expected more from her and how she had an apathetic behavior indifference and cold coming from someone I know. In which she replied don't text me if you're going text me like that I saw 4 moms already there so I left and by the way I packed my things way before the incident I was about to text you how is she was ha right. I didn't exclude her from anything and as for leaving at 8pm I was just trying to warn everyone. That was the dumbest reply. I told her actions speak louder than words and we were done. 

As for the piece of tooth I never found so that's that we are on our way to an emergency dentist appointment I hope no extreme damage was done and there's a simple solution I will keep you guys posted  

Probably need to lose that friend. People aren’t honest in this day and age. 

You don’t need “friends” like this one…. js I had experience with a so called friend, definitely was not. There are so many other people out there for you to have a good relationship with… 😊 

Thanks guys yup it's just awkward now because we're literally in the same places at the same times atleast once a day. For example yesterday we were at the pool she was in one corner and I was at the other but our kids were swimming together.  

A true friend would have helped in whatever way possible.  

Right ✅️ she's incredible the worst is while she ignores me and passes right by me her daughter goes after mine crying 😢