shirfleur 1's Journal, 12 December 2020

We all have those days. Put it behind and move on. You can do it! 

I have appreciated you, your support, and your attitudes over these last months and have a question to ask you. Since you told me you are 77, perhaps you have thought about this. Me being 79, and wanting a clarification, I am trying to come up with a couple paragraph statement saying what I feel like is "quality of life" for me in my future. It needs to include those things that I think are necessary for me to want to live or make life worth living for me. Rather than go into what I've come up with so far, would you be willing to share with me what you would feel was necessary for you as you get older? You can private message me if you want, or just put it as a comment to my latest journal. I value you and your opinions. Thanks.  

Sometimes it is so much easier to not have it within reach for sure!!! 😁  

I feel good about not putting any bread on my grocery order this week... a small victory for me right now 😬 

Hard question, quality of life at 77 - you begin asking yourself hard questions like what matters, was your youth wasted, was your behavior forgivable? - internalized social conditioning falls away. Religious beliefs are re-examined. So, quality of life after 77 would be learning more than ever because it’s easy in 2020, self acceptance because u have little choice you’ve gotta accept yourself for much more than looks or others’ approval. Slowing down enables you to see & smell nature around you and spot a phony person. Lots of things, read all different kinds of books, watch documentaries, laugh freely, accept change, let anyone who loves you know it, regularly. May this be the purpose of life in later years? To have fun, think deeply, read widely, love easily and accept these are the end years. It happens. 

Nice thoughts Lala. 🏡🎄 

Snowwhite, I'm not sure quite how to answer you, but I will tell you what is important to me at this time in my life. Mostly, I value people and my relationships with them. It is important to me to be sure the people I love know how I feel about them. I try to be kind to everyone I come in contact with, no matter who or where. I do what I can to give to those less fortunate than me, because I have found that when I give to others I give myself a gift. I feel as though, if I have made a positive different in one person's life, then my life has purpose and meaning. Am I always successful in my efforts? Absolutely not, but I continue to try. I hope that you can find peace and joy in your life as you go forward. 

Go girl!!!! 

Awesome! I need to keep coming back it does help to reel me back in control. But I hear ya, I had a mini bottle of Moscato Asti the other night. Was delicious!