Janelleas's Journal, 02 December 2008

Oh bless her and you. The end came rather quickly, didn't it? I will be thinking of you. Funerals are what they are-can't imagine you would embarrass yourself at a funeral-it's the place for emotion. Interestingly (well for me) my BF is one of those crack of the dawn walkers. I tried it for a while and I was miserable-felt like I was in a grouchy coma. I think she was relieved when I stopped showing up. Okay luv-take care of yourself and your friend. My prayers are with her. Losing a parent is hell. 

You are a wonderful friend Janelleas, Do whatever it is that you need to do. Not to worry about the reporting and the exercise, but if you start to beel guilty about the exercise thing, (and you shouldn't) take 5 minutes every so often (like hiding in the bathroom or pretending to change in the bedroom) and do stretches and stuff. As far as journaling your food, keep a note pad in you purse and journal write things down before you go to bed, or in the morning, write the planned meal down and edit it according to what you did. Only a few suggestions, but what is important is that you take care of yourself and your friend. Remember to take care of yourself too, helping others through stressful situations will be stressful on you as well. Be sure to relax. Stormi  

I'm so sorry about your friend's mom. Funerals are tough, but it's also a chance for your friend to be surrounded by her loving friends and family. Take care of yourself in all of this. (((hugs))) 

I am so sorry to hear about your friend's loss. Yes. Funerals are fatiguing. They take a lot out of a person. Be certain to get your rest. Take care.  

yuk mom...im sorry...the best thing is that you are going to be there for her...doing whatever, whenever...take care and make the best decisions at that moment and pick back up this weekend... 

I'm so sorry to hear about your BF's mother. Take care of yourself and your friend.  

I'm so sorry about your BF mom. You are a good friend, by being there with her, through this very tough time. 

*hugs* we will be hear supporting you in our thoughts and praers while you support her and her family :) 

Thinking about you and wishing best. Sending lots good vibes your way!!! 

So sorry to hear about your BF's Mom. You are such a good friend to be there for her. Funerals are always so very tough. Hang in there. Give my condolences to your friend.  

I am still journaling my food and getting my exercise in. Odd thing about this funeral tomorrow... It's too odd to even discuss but that won't stop me...but I am not going. I am actually not invited, and neither is the deceased's family that live here, the other relatives haven't even been told and they won't print the obituary in the paper until AFTER the service. Only my friend, her sister and their hubby's (along with her sister's daughter) are the only ones that will be there... very PRIVATE indeed. Have no idea why...she says thats the way her mom wanted it. However my friend is the biggest liar this side of the Mississipi so you never know. They were not getting any flowers at all either, she told me she cut some evergreen boughs from her tree to lay on top of her mom's casket and that would be all that they wanted. I did send flower's to her house anyway with just a "thinking of you" card. I prepared some food and took it over just to make sure they had easy meals for this week. My friend is strange and the relationships in her family seem strange to me. However ... my most wonderful Aunt that I adore.. my Aunt Dodo... says that our family is full of nuts!! So who am I to judge!  

Whoa....that really is pretty strange. 

Wow, very peculiar.. but I'm not one to judge the final wishes of anyone. I've heard of no flowers or donation to such in such requested rather than, and no obit., but, not even immediate family? No support for the immediate family? Huh! Maybe, she wanted people to remember her as she was... Anyway, really glad to hear that you're getting along well and that you are keeping up with everything. You know, when I go, my son is the only one in this world who knows where I want to be... You've made me think that I should probably take care of that :) I wouldn't want my family making assumptions for me... Oh please no! :) Stormi  

You are wonderful, and I love you.  

I'm so sorry to hear about your BF's mother. My sincere condolences. ((HUGS)). Your BF is so lucky to have you around to support her. We're all blessed to know you, Janelle. Stay strong and great job on still making time for yourself. =)