Rajah1973's Journal, 14 November 2010

Rajah, what in the world did someone say to upset you so???  

And who the heck were these people?  

"Things like this make it really hard to stick to the right way to lose weight!" No no no, you want to show these people just how great you are, and that means doing it the right way for yourself, and when you get to your goal feeling twice as good as it. Give them nothing to talk about, and don't let them get under your skin. 56pounds is no joke, that is MAJOR life changing weightloss, and even if you do have some to go, you're getting there. You hold your head up missy, because you deserve to and you're not going to let anyone stop you from taking charge of YOUR life. Let them talk, they're only trying to put out your fire because they can't get theirs to burn as brightly (or, they're afraid you're going to out shine them), so SHINE. Seriously, I am so livid right now. You should be nothing but proud of yourself, this is not easy and you're making a huge move by doing it the right way. You keep caring about yourself, and loving yourself and you don't let anyone make you feel anything about yourself you don't deserve. All you deserve is encouragement, love and happiness. You may not find all those things everywhere, but they're somewhere - try and care them with you. Okay, I've been awake for 24 hours (midnghts) and I'm ranting, but seriously, chin up and keep reaching for those stars. This is just another bump on the road to your goals. Use it as fuel for your fire they're trying to stomp out <3 

Don't listen. Listen to us instead. You are amazing!!! 

Rajah, those people aren't the ones that count, you are the one that matters. You feel good, look good, and are doing what is best for your body, so pay no mind to the inconsiderate jerks that have no idea what they are talking about. I happen to think that you are awesome, and that you are kicking some serious rear end! So don't you worry about those people for one more minute. YOU know it's not true, and that is what matters. 

56 lbs is an AMAZING accomplishment. Most likely those making the comments have no insight into that. You are amazing. You are doing amazing. Don't let the negative comments of the few and ignorant diminish what you've accomplished or your desire to keep going. 

Thank you all so much everyone. I managed to keep myself together until I got home. Then I fell apart. Because I have no support system, I came online. I didn't mean to sound like a whiney baby. I am so touchy when it comes to my weight. And it was an older man who made a comment about how "heavy" I am. He seemed to think the church pew was moving because of me being too heavy for it. The truth is, the pew was uneven and not anchored properly. It has always moved. Even small children move it. I have been going to that church for 4 years now, and no one has ever made a comment about my weight. Not even when I was at my biggest. I guess it upset me so badly because I've always believed that if you want to hear the brutal truth, listen to old people and children. I am so touchy about my weight though, that it doesn't take much to tear me apart. Anyway, thanks for being there, and God bless! 

It's always so easy for people to remark about other's weight. My nephew is struggling with this problem with the new school that he's moved to. It breaks my heart to see him treated this way, but I know that if things don't change for him, it will continue into adulthood. I've been "chunky" all my life and dealt with it all through school. I have been trying to lose the weight now for me, not for anyone else. This website does have a great support system, and I hope you continue to use it during your journey! Good luck and great work! Forget about that man who made the comment...he has no bearing on who you are as a person! 

See, you DO have a support system (considering the first thing I did this morning was come to see if you were okay), we can ALL get through this together. We're all sensitive, and if you were near me I'd bring you for tea <3  

How wonderful to know there are others out there that understand me and how I feel. I greatly appreciate all of the support guys, I really and truely do. Thank you all so much! It makes it so much easier when you have support.. Thank you all and God bless!! 

Rajah, older folks aren't always right, even when they THINK they are. Do not let one comment from this elderly man derail your journey....you are doing wonderfully! If this church is not teaching the congregation to be loving and kind, then it is not teaching what Christ taught. On the other hand, this older gent may have some issues of his own (alzheimers comes to mind) that cause him to be unable to control his tongue! Take care and do not let it get to you! He isn't right and you know it! 

Ctlss, Thank you so much. I've come to far to turn back now. I am not going to let him derail me or anyone else for that matter. It hurt my feelings, yes, but, I know that I am doing this for ME. He is a little odd, always has been but he is always sweet too. I think he just spoke it out thinking. I think we are all guilty of that at times. I know I am. Like I said, it did hurt me, but at the same time, it motivated me that much more. Thanks so much and God bless! 

God bless you also, Rajah! 

Rajah, I'm 66 and I would NEVER make such a rude comment unless I had dementia. You have to know how wonderfully you're doing. When I was 28, I got pregnant with my third child. I was 195 lbs. when I got pregnant, and when I came home from the hospital after his delivery, I was 145. I felt so pretty and thin. I was walking down the road one day with some friends, when some creeps drove by beside us and one of them hung out of the car and yelled, "Hey, porky!" That was 38 years ago and it still stings. I would give just about anything to be that weight now. I think you have to be us to understand just how fragile our psyches are. 

Johanne, God bless your heart! What a jerk! I sure hope he has found God since then. If not, I've got a feeling he is probably alone and miserable! It seems like we can have 100 good comments and be ok with it, but, one bad comment can nearly destroy the way we feel about ourselves. This is truely a journey for the body and mind. We have to completely rearrange the way we see ourselves in order for our weight loss to be a complete success! You hang in there and keep up to good work, and may be God bless!!!