jenniferdonahue's Journal, 04 September 2021

Today's a thrilling day because my weight and body fat percentage put me in some metrics' bucket of what is a fit woman over 50. This is my goal. Others say I'm oh so close. Either way, it's glorious.

As many know, when one person in the family commits to fitness and mental wellness that is required to this kind of physical and emotional discipline, it challenges those around her. In most ways, it is positive, but we also experience the hostility we create in others when they recognize they aren't managing their own life as effectively. It makes them uncomfortable which often causes them to cast aspersions at the one making them uncomfortable.

So many people find this too hard to endure while they are keeping to their own regimen. The ones we love most being critical of our amazing achievements. It takes the strength of knowing what one is doing is right to even hope for overcoming the subtle subversive attempts to sabotage (often not consciously inflicted) by others to bring one back down. Those are hard enough, but the point blank suggestion of one overdoing it precisely when she's getting close to the goal of wellness feels like those one loves most are shattering the foundation upon which her change was predicated.

The good news is it is not the case. We are only in control of ourselves. Health and self care are basic acts of love toward oneself. No one has the right to rob us fo that. A clear vision of medical wellness and mental well being should be our beacon. Clinging to this vision like a lighthouse in whatever storm threatens our fitness, I believe we can endure. Others' discomfort with our wellness is their journey -- not ours. We can encourage them, love them, hear them out, but the difficult work of owning one's wellness is our job. As family or friends or both, it's hard work, but compared to what others endure, it's worth it. It's also not the degree of suffering so many others endure.

Celebrate the wellness and goodness one's given and one earns. It will help in overcoming the hard moments.

135.6 lb Lost so far: 20.4 lb.    Still to go: 4.6 lb.    Diet followed reasonably well.

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1206 kcal

Fat: 16.72g | Prot: 82.41g | Carb: 165.68g.   Breakfast: Strawberries, Blueberries, Peach, Open Nature Greek Nonfat Strained Yogurt - Plain, Orange Juice, Spinach, Flaxseed Seeds, Coffee with Cream, Up&Up Fiber Gummy Supplement. Lunch: Orange Juice, Chobani Greek Yogurt Black Cherry on The Bottom, Bananas, Strawberries, O Organics Greek Plain Strained Organic Nonfat Yogurt, Peach, Blueberries, Spinach. Dinner: Kroger Jalapeno Peppers, Jalapeno Peppers, Tomatoes, Wisconsin Premium Mexican Blend Shredded Cheese, Corn, 2% Fat Milk, Black Beans (Canned), Fresh & Easy Liquid Egg Whites. Snacks/Other: Del Monte Cantaloupe, Peach. more...

1909 kcal

Activities & Exercise: Walking (brisk) - 4/mph - 1 hour and 13 minutes, Yard Work (gardening) - 30 minutes, Resting - 14 hours and 17 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...