DAZEY_iz_Well's Journal, 28 February 2024

Oh boy! Been there, toddlers can be so hard! One day I called my dad on the phone crying and he was so sweet, he came and babysat so I could go out to lunch. Hang in there! 

Yikes. Sounds like a rough day! 

Oh, sending you so much support... I remember those days... I would build little breaks into the day by paying attention to the kids and then saying something like, 'ok, Mommy is taking a coffee break, now..' 

In 13 years you will be telling this story to his date. Memories. Hate them when they happen but laugh when your kid is getting embarrassed. Good luck! 

Hopefully in 13 years he won't be doing the same thing, lol, some people never grow up. I'm sure you'll correct that behavior.  

They have SO much energy  

Bless your heart! Boy do I remember those days! But as others say, those are the days we ALWAYS look back on and miss! Try to rest. The mess isnt going anywhere and they grow soo fast. 

I remember those days but more as my child got older. I was blessed with a pretty well behaved little boy but he certainly made up for that when he hit puberty... Hope your having a better day today 🩷🩷  

Any tips to survive puberty? I really worry about my oldest (10yo) with Autism/ADHD. Hes been wild already. 

Seems the games have begun? 

I hope things get better for you. I was a stay at home mom with twins, there 11 now so things have gotten some better but they still fight over every stupid little thing. 

No shame there, I think every good parent is at a moment of frustration where they had to sit down cluster themselves off and have a good cry... don't beat yourself over it it's just one day. And when he gets a little warmer you both can go outside and let the little one run around and get off some steam run out a little energy. If the little one wasn't having a fever I'd recommend the library a lot of libraries have toddler areas where they can play with other little toddlers and wear out some of their energy and it fun space while you sit there and let them run it out yes even in the library. 😊 as for the cleaning issue I completely understand with three children at home but all crazy making huge messes constantly and then there's the big job I mean my husband, LOL 😂. Hope your feeling better now though. 🤗 

I always say picking up after my kids while they're home is like wiping while still pooping. yesterday my 10 year old son threw his socks in the middle of the living room. I picked them up and they're soaked. oops I accidentally peed on them. yep. 8 inch wide puddle next to the toilet. what the actual fudge. at least listen for water hitting water u don't even have to look man.  

Great endorsement for being childless. 

WisteriaSky233, love that's where I will have to disagree with you every time. After being in a marriage for nearly 22 years I still love my husband dearly and that's not to say that my children haven't wrecked my body in many ways, made me question my sanity more then once, and even derailed my career, but I love them more than life itself. I could see my marriage failing, but I could never see my love of my children ever changing or lessening ever in a million years. Even if my children were never able to hit the toilet, pick up after themselves, or they we're making me cry in the bathroom at least once a day. After all you can pick your husband or your wife, but you can't pick your children. I don't know how to explain it fully but there are too many wonderful delights that children give you that a spouse can't too many wonderful experiences. The lights of the world, the wonder held within their eyes, the love, and wholesomeness in their hearts, prehaps it's the innocence in their souls that another human being that aren't that isn't the child that is it your child can never have. And while I agree that there are many troubles and tribulations that come with children that may not come with other adults there are many more joys that you will never know if you do not share your life with children. I understand there are many people that will choose never to have children and that is their choice but I'm glad that I had my children and that I share my life with children. 

Well said Leah. As much work as they are i miss the chaos when they're at their mom's.  

@Leah_guffey I get people love their kids. But I also know being in a bad marriage, I don't want to be trapped with a child on top of everything else going wrong. Big reason, why I married an older man. I didn't want to be brow beat in having a kid. 

Remember to breathe!! ❤️ 

WisteriaSky233, sweet lady please don't think meant you any shade. I know your husband is taking you for a ride but he's bled out your credit cards and run down your credit that he's ignoring you and leaving you to be lonely at night to start his new job that he has his friends living in your other house rent free I listen to your posts. Nor do I say the children do not complicate life nor limit ones freedoms I merely meant that there are beauties that come from having children that should not be ignored. And that there are things that you might not understand that change after you have a child that are hard to understand when you haven't had one that are not necessarily biological. As a person who has adopted a child would understand the same as having a child. I understand your position on the matter but I don't think that one day of frustration really it's a good position to not have children but rather just allows us to see how hard it can be for any one person to deal with the frustrations in life and empathize with that person's frustrations. Much like when I listen to your posts I empathize with you because we've all had troubles with our spouse or significant others. And so that allows me to empathize with you better because I too have had difficulties with my significant other obviously I've not had the same difficulties but the difficulties I've had allow me to empathize better with you or at least I like it think it does. Or at least I like it think it does. 

But if my comment came off as brash I'm sorry I certainly didn't mean to offend you in any way. That was never my intention. 🤗