It's a behavior and behaviors can be changed. Losing weight is about being mentally ready to make changes. Sometimes you have to keep doing it and one day it clicks and all comes together. Do some research on how to change your behavior. When you start to feel anxious, you need to find something else to do besides eat. Exercise helps with anxiety. Pick up a hobby that you can do with your hands to keep busy. Some people knit, scrap book, etc. You can do this if you want it badly enough.