tweetledee's Journal, 20 November 2018

My sister does the same thing to me...and the people at work. And my nephew! But I just tell em nope and they eventually stop. One day isn’t going to wreck your diet! Good for you to decide to splurge not give in to peer pressure !! 

good choice to log it accountability is key, yes you did have a splurge but nothing you can't fix. Just be careful not to let her do this very often 

I've found that people like this just love you the way you are and don't fully understand why you want to dedicate to this path. Try sitting down with her and explaining how important it is to you. Hopefully she will try to be a better influence for you. 

One way to deal with frenimies bearing “gifts” if you think they are trying to sabotage your efforts Is to say “thank you so much, but I’m full. You take it home.”. After they pay for it a couple of times and you decline their “gift”, they will stop. They may be testing your commitment. 

I think her problem is I've always been the fat 1. No matter how big she got, I was always fatter. shes 182, and 4ft10. I'm 265 and 5ft 2.. I wear my weight differently then she does. Shes all around the middle. Mines everywhere lol. We r currently in the same size clothing. I think this bothers her more then anything lol. I'm losing weight, and shes not. She makes comments a lot to my boys, like they'll put my pants in her stuff and she'll say I'm not that big guys, or she'll complain about how all she eats is salad and she doesn't lose a pound, let me tell u she eats a lot more then salad lol. And her salad have a bunch of junk on them lol. Also I'm about to drop a pants size again. 2xl is needs a belt. So my jeggings are going to drop to 1x. Which is 1 under her lol. I also go to the gym, she sets lol. I love her but I really think she's trying to sabotage me. Lol. It's not going to work. It's my Choice what goes n lol.  

Ugh. That sucks! I agree with Kenna, start denying her offers.  

I quite understand Tweedledee, I have a similar situation. I've always been the fat one, since always. If I'm not on a diet, it's "well that's why you're so fat", but if I am on one and it's working, then obviously I must be doing it wrong, because I'm eating carbs or something. problem, when you love your family, but it feels like they're trying to stop you. I wonder sometimes if they're just scared that they won't have someone to point to and say "well they're worse!" 

Mikaracat— you got their number all right. They don’t want to be alone in not being able to control that behavior. As long as they have a fun pal “to be bad” with them - a co-conspirator if you will, they don’t have to fully face their own ssues. Just keep doing what you need to do for yourself.  

Yup. Actions versus running your “mouth”. I think it rly all boils down to, like the others have said already, commitment. Sounds like you want this. I want it also. So many of us do and we’re willing to sacrifice eating that piece of cake or drinking that beer to achieve our goal. Ok so I’m denying myself a few things but look what I’ve accomplished. And so have you. My sister is the same way. She has always been smaller than me and I know it drives her crazy now that I’m getting smaller. But I will not let anyone derail me! I’ve said no thank you so many times people have finally stopped asking 🤣