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Wow, so I stepped onto the home scale and it registered 213.7 lbs. A new low, in fact, I am less than 2 lbs from my 2010 low. Now, there are a few considerations when I look at this weight. First, in yesterday's workout, I sweated a ton and felt charged up. Throughout the day, I felt like my metabolism was so charged up and I started sweating within the day. Additionally, in the evening I made a large deposit in the bank of the number two....(trying to finesse poo is hard...). SO taking into account the sweat and the deposit, that may account for the weight drop. Now, I do expect a jump tomorrow as I am not working out at the gym today and I usually see a bump up after a large loss in my weight loss chart....BUT I am happy because I see that my new phase is pushing me back into the trend that I had before hitting that mid october plateau. Exercise is here to stay!
Noon time Thoughts:
1) Damned if you do, Damned if you don't - So my great wife asked me to reach out and find out about refinancing the mortgage. So i reached out, then I presented the scenarios and rates. Does she thank me? NO. She instead says "How does this help me when I am paying for the mortgage and the college costs?". Basically, she was using this opportunity to complain that I don't contribute to the mortgage and the college costs. Now, she makes almost 40% more than I do. So I take care of a ton of the home expenses, pay the auto bills (Ins. and leases) and some other things, she takes care of the mortgage and the college bills. Her pay is based on commissions and my pay is based on straight salary...and I haven't gotten a raise in 3 years. SO, pray tell, how can I contribute anything if I am already at 95% of capacity with my bills and I don't have variable pay. I was so upset that I just stayed in the living room watching football and she was in the bedroom watching comedy shows. Then she has the nerve to ask me if I am in the living room because I am angry. I didn't say anything, but man was I pissed. UGH....sometimes, I just wish I could record the things she says so she can see for herself what she does to me. This morning though I was over it...as you can see, I didn't use any curses on this Journal note...last night I would have been dropping F bombs left and right.
2) Hurricane is Coming - Last year, Hurricane Irene hit NYC but it wasn't that bad. NOW we have Hurricane Sandy is heading here. It looks like it will have high winds and more rain. I will be picking up some extra water and food on Saturday and the storm is not tracked to hit till Tuesday. Now, NYC hasn't really had any real bad storms but Gloria in 1986 and Irene last year were probably the worst ones. A Katrina like event in NYC would be catastrophic....I don't think this storm is in that category. So time to "batton down the hatches" and get ready....Sandy is coming!
Song of the Day - It's No Good by Depeche Mode
Cloudy and Dreary in NYC!
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I am like you. My hubby does the same to me. Asks me a question,which is clearly setting me up for an argument. But where we differ is I go to the bedroom to get AWAY from him and he frigging follows me in to keep stuffing his foot in his big mouth! This does nothing for my diet as I stop eating when I am mad and being diabetic and stressed I really should eat, but arguing with him just drains me. Spouses need to be more considerate to their loved ones feelings.
26 Oct 12 by member: MommaMonkey74
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Ok, so I haven't been a wife for about 8 years, but isn't the point of being married is to have that one person who loves you no matter what, is your biggest supporter, and is your partner for the big things in life? I don't get why that is not the case in so many marriages. Probably why I never remarried after my divorce. Now I'm ready for it again, so any advice on starting over and developing a true partnership instead of working against each other?
26 Oct 12 by member: Djburney
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I thought married people had joint checking accounts?
26 Oct 12 by member: JessWhatINeeded
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I physically take care of the finances in our house. We both have our checks deposited into one account so that it is basically "our" money no matter who makes more or less. DH get out our cash for the week at the ATM. This way our pool of money is paying the bills. Every once in a while I will sit down and show DH the checkbook register but he isn't concerned with the daily "details". We have separate retirement accounts so that is an area that you could individualize. But end the end it is all "ours". They say $$ gets in the way of a lot of good marriages. It might help to get an expert to help. Hope all works out for you. Congrats on figuring out the eating/exercise part!
26 Oct 12 by member: Neptunebch
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Been there, Done that. It is so frustrating when you don't get the support you need especially when it is a spouse. I understand that we all get frustrated however,why can't people discuss things rather than complain? How does that solve anything?! My ex wouldn't speak to me for days. Clearly for me this wasn't working anymore (I'm not advocating divorce). Just remember to surround yourself with a support system and maybe try talking to your wife about your feelings. Hang in there you are doing awesome!
26 Oct 12 by member: crazyminxx
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Thanks to everyone. I am not advocating divorce or anything of the sort. I made a vow to my wife and I love her but damn, when she says things like that she doesn't realize that I am frustrated as well. Does she think that I am happy that my department had a salary freeze for three years? I missed out on over 8-14K in raises during that time. Add to that the rising costs of everything because even though the US standard of living has not gone up, our bills and services have gone up. So, in the past I have told her that I am trying the best I can but because of the salary freeze there is just no more $$$$ she says she understands but then something like yesterday happens. So to clarify some other points....When we got married we agreed to keep our own checking accounts and stuff simply because it was easier to divide up the bills responsibility and we would not want to be picking on the purchases each of us made. Now, we are not shopaholics and we aren't crazy frugal but we do manage to pay off bills and be current with all our accounts. We didn't see a need to co-mingle the accounts because we didn't want that feeling that we would each see what the other is buying on a constant basis. It has worked out beautifully as we do know what we bring in on a monthly basis. We have helped each other when the help was available....however, for me due to the salary freezes, I haven't "extra funds" to help out on some other items. Anyway, this is probably TMI, as fund items are but, a word to the wise, sometimes walking away from an argument allows for a cooling off period. She and I have had this argument countless times, there was nothing new for me to add so I walked away and was able to chill out instead of being angry and saying something I would regret later.
Thanks to everyone for their well wishes and advice. You all are what makes FS such a great site for more than just weight loss. Thank you!
26 Oct 12 by member: Hildi72
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