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Guess who has officially lost 80 lbs since I had McKenzie and 50 lbs since I started back full-force in October? ME, that's who! :)
**Edit**
Also, I'd like to rant about one thing...
My family meets every Tuesday night for "Biggest Loser Night" and we all weigh-in (the adults) and keep track of weight lost. We host this event at my house and I usually cook, but my mom cooks sometimes. My sister-in-law elected herself our dessert chef. Sometimes she brings really neat desserts (out of hungry girl cookbooks, biggest loser cookbooks, etc), but I have noticed a disturbing trend. When one or more of us really starts losing weight successfully, sis-in-law seems to take on the role of saboteur! Last night she said she'd bring "healthy dessert", and guess what she brought? TWO GALLONS of ice cream and a box of ice cream cones. She cracks open the ice cream (chocolate or cookies and cream) and starts dishing it out like there's nothing wrong with it! Needless to say, the kids all had cones, my brother (her hubby) had one, she had one, and the rest of us (me, my hubby, my mom) looked at her like she was crazy.
This is NOT the first time she's done this. My brother is 6'4 and 450+ lbs. HELLO!! He desperately needs to lose weight!! And every time he has made any progress whatsoever, she starts the sabotage! It makes me so angry I could scream. What is W-R-O-N-G with her? She is 5'2" and weighs in the 240s, so obviously she needs to lose too!
That's my rant. I'm angry... very angry.
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Freaking awesome! Keep up the good work. You're doing amazing.
02 Feb 11 by member: k8yk
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Congrats on the Big 5-0 chickie!!! So as far as your SIL goes, it's interesting that you have made the connection between her behavior & someone else's successful weight loss. Unfortunately you can't control how others react to someone's success. Her feelings of jealousy are perfectly normal, but actively trying to sabotage others is a very unhealthy way of acting out. Since this is obviously a gathering organized around the weight loss theme, I think it's appropriate to tell her not to bring crap like that if you don't want her to. But you do have the right to decline it just like you did & your brother is responsible for his own weight loss just like your SIL is. If he's going to let himself be influenced by her, all you can do is continuing setting the example for how to deal with stuff like that. You know how the saying goes: you can lead a horse to water...
02 Feb 11 by member: kstubblefield
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Congrats on your weightloss that is amazing! As for your SIL, I agree with everything Kat said. Is there any way you could tell her that although you appreciate her desserts could she please leave the ice cream treats/not so healthy desserts at home with out hurting her feelings?
02 Feb 11 by member: pixidaisy
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Well, probably not. She is VERY easily offended. And I have a good relationship with her, she's pretty much my best friend. It's not that we don't get along- I just don't deal well with this one issue lol!
02 Feb 11 by member: Shrinking Sonya
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Sorry if this sounds callous, but so what if she's easily offended? Isn't that her problem? I understand not wanting to make an issue of it if it's not that big a deal, the whole pick-your-battles thing, but obviously it bothers you. Only you can decide whether to let it go or speak up, but if it keeps eating at you, that's a sign you need to tell her how you feel.
02 Feb 11 by member: kstubblefield
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I'm taking it that this wasn't low cal/low fat ice cream either?!? I would probably restate the "plan" and if she doesn't want to comply, she will no longer be in charge of dessert. Or, I would have been....."OMG! Is this a Biggest Loser temptation? I'm going to take the higher road and not eat it. I'm in it to win." The adults would probably follow. Maybe have a "backup" dessert, just in case. Congrats on your loss! That is wonderful! I remember the first time I came here, you had just found out you were pregnant. I got off track, came back in January and you have had the baby and have lost SO much! WOOHOO Carrots!!!!
02 Feb 11 by member: kcook323
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I think having a back up dessert might be a good idea. It doesn't have to be anything major just another option she may even suprise her self and opt for your dessert over hers.
02 Feb 11 by member: pixidaisy
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Congrats on your loss. And also on your ability to resist the saboteur's evil dessert!
02 Feb 11 by member: eg730
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Haha @eg730. Yeah, I agree with all of you guys. I know I could confront her, but I also need a good relationship with her. She keeps my baby every day while I work. Plus we spend a lot of time around them. But I might take you up on the idea of making my own dessert. Maybe I can come up with some AWESOME healthy one and everyone would choose mine (and secretly challenge her to try harder at getting creative AND healthy with the desserts she chooses!).
02 Feb 11 by member: Shrinking Sonya
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I have just the thing...go to the Kraft website & search for Angel Lush Cake. Every weekend when I do my carb-up day I make it. Low fat & high deliciousness!!! I brought it to a Thanksgiving gathering & an entire caramel apple pie went untouched. Make lots...the kids will tear it up!!
02 Feb 11 by member: kstubblefield
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Oh my gosh that looks SO GOOD!
02 Feb 11 by member: Shrinking Sonya
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Maybe you should take over the role of dessert chef! Tell your SIL that although you appreciate her effort it is just not working for you and your wt lose buddies. If she insist on bringing something anyway then you can have yours and she can eat hers. You have to do what is best for you and sometimes that means saying NO this is not acceptable....
02 Feb 11 by member: needtoluzit50
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Totally awesome. Keep up the great work.
07 Feb 11 by member: Song Byrd
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