Proudmomma412's Journal, 14 June 2017

I know exactly how you feel, my husband doesn't support my efforts to lose weight either. In fact he tries to sabotage my efforts. 

Can sympathize, was there with you for years. Take it from someone who didn't take it from someone, YOU take care of YOU...if you have to cook your own food then do it...YOU are worth it  

That's just wrong. It's hard enough to manage weight as it is. My wife and I both struggle with it and support each other. It is so much easier together. Not to mention... but isn't that what your supposed to do when your married, or just a plain old decent person? 

YIKES,, That would be a RED FLAG !!! You need to take care of YOU as no one else will !! My wife bakes cookies, cakes, breads for the kids, but I have to stay away from them and just concentrate on me , food wise !!! 

I'm so sorry you don't have support at home. You will have to find it elsewhere, HERE is a great place to find some. Hopefully you have friends or co-workers to share with. If not, you still have YOU and that's all you really need! Harder? Yes, but not impossible. YOU CAN do it and YOU WILL reap the rewards!!!! 

We are here to help with will 👌 

My hubby does support me, cheers me on, then apologizes when he comes home with a huge container of freshly baked bite size blueberry (MY FAVORITE) pastries! lol I just grit me teeth and keep on keeping on. ;-) 

It can seem impossible at times when you are the only person in a house who is on a diet - When others just take the piss. Looking at or cooking foodstuffs that you should not eat at home and work can make the start of a diet very tough. What ever the situation you need to find a way though it. Once you get used to seeing out of bounds food you are halfway. 

Good morning sunshine. I can relate to your frustration because I am where you are. I know that we have to begin with self. We don't need to worry about anyone else because on the journey that we have begun no one can do or feel it but us. We but make up in our mind that we are determined to achieve the goals that we have set for ourselves. Small goals at first and as you achieve success with the small ones your confidence will begin to grow. You are beautiful, you are special, you can do and WILL do anything you set your mind too. I am on day 1 on my journey and I along with everyone else will be here to support, encourage, motivate or even just listen. Today is a new day. Let's begin with positivity and a smile. I pray that you have a beautiful start to your Wonderful Wesnesday. Be blessed sweetie.  

The comments before mine are all exactly right. Draw your support from here and cook you own food separately. Always remember: 'You are special enough to eat special'. This is how I won the game... 

Out of sight-out of mind... If he would only do that.. I wouldn't see the chips, Hershey's mini chocolate bites, etc. But, NOOOOOO... top of the fridge he puts it.. I guess I can't put all the blame on him, but he should shoulder half.  

feel your pain mines same think it's a confidence thing for them the more we lose the more our confidence grows and better we look and unfortunately our men (not all) don't like it. stay strong and show him you don't need his support. independent women on here doing it for themselves. 

Think we all have shared similar situations with loved ones, friends or co-workers. Try to remember why you are choosing this path for yourself and then nurture yourself towards that goal. Take care of your husband's nutritional needs but remember yours are equally important. I think once your husband sees you winning your battle that he will be much more supportive. God loves you and in his eyes you are perfect. Have a blessed day. 

My wife is the same way. Says I need to lose weight and then takes my ground beef and adds bread crumbs to it, not just for meatloaf, but for everything she cooks. She pulls the skin off my chicken, the fat off my steaks and ribs, and refuses to use bacon grease for cooking eggs or anything else. Uses vegetable oil instead. uses margarine instead of butter. Insists on fixing corn or potatoes with just about every meal and loves putting pasta, bread, and cake in front of me to eat and gets mad if I say no and threatens to quit cooking. Well Duh! If it wasn't for the fact that she uses the foods I buy for my KETO and ruins it with the way she cooks it....  

I will support u here and I will be your friend to only u can decide to do this journey no one else can tell u u can't  

I think this happens the world over I can see a food discussion coming up at Pully towers tonight I'm frustrated as losses have slowed - For dinner we have four bowls of Tapas to share between 3 -Meat content 2/10 of bugger all. With masses of potato and cauliflower as a side dishes. I daren't tut , roll my eyes or anything. We have run out of cheese as well.  

sometimes family members are afraid if the other person will lose too much weight, what will happen to them, will they leave me for someone else etc. or the family member that is heavy is the one that is always home and takes care of things, what happens if that person loses weight and goes out more and gets active etc.? You would think family members would be happy to see their loved one taking care of themselves and getting healthy. I think this type of behavior comes out of fear... stand strong, and take care of yourself.  

I'm here for support too! There are a lot of people in life that say they "love you", but what they actually mean is "I love what you do for me". They fear the change you're making will mean you have less time for them, so they put you down figuring you'll give up. Took me a long time to learn that lesson. I know you can get healthy, we all can, we just have to believe in ourselves!  

I think we are married to the same man!! lol Minus the video games & add FB, Craigslist, etc. I also am the breadwinner of our family of 6. Drives me crazy..... 

But here we are to support you and others 😎 it's hard without family support, but it's not a reason to give up on your goals of healthier life 👍