I weighed about 150 lbs. my whole adult life. At age 39 after separating from my first husband and father of my three children, I went to my home town to visit my mother and ran into my first and only real true love-my high school sweetheart and we married 4 months later. In that first year of marriage we both gained about 80 lbs.About 5 years later, I got down to under my goal weight and maintained that for several years until I spent the summer of 2007 more in than out of a diabetic coma. Upon discharge, I was 35 lbs. heavier and from there it progressed. Two years ago, I lost about 40 lbs. until I had surgery for a complication of diabetes and post-op gained almost 50 lbs. back. My husband is going for bariatric surgery in the next two months and has already lost 30 lbs. prior to surgery. I absolutely do not want to be his fat wife!