SilverB7's Journal, 04 November 2018

Don’t let other people get you down, the fact that you joined this app proves that you are changing your life for the better. You need to stay strong willed and positive, we all have our ups and downs 

Thank you it's just so hard... 

Some people just don't think before they speak...it reminds me of that advert on TV...where the guy says "my wife is also pregnant" . It's just so hurtful and unnessary! I don't find it amusing at all. 

I know right? Especially if they say it in a nasty tone too...  

Omg!!! What a asswipe!!! Please excuse my language. But I get beyond furious when hear the mean things ppl say to someone who has gained weight or Who is over weight!! I've been through it my WHOLE life.. And don't even mention the fun they'd make when I tried loosing weight and wouldn't succeed... My heaviest was 110kgs...and I know exactly what it's like to be laughed at...to be made fun of... By those trying to intentionally hurt me or by those making the "but I didnt mean it jokes"  

But don't u let them get to u. I know it's hard not to show that they hurt or humiliate you... I've been bullied all my life about my weight... And if Id try a diet or gymning I'd do it all in secret.... Incase they'd find out and make fun of that too.. But no more!!! Now I'm. Fit.. Fat and fabulous.. And the fact that I'm confident about it now... Makes them even more bitter. I won't allow them to get me down anymore... They knew they always had the upper hand of me when they say mean things about my weight. And if u want to loose weight do it bcos YOU want to...do it bcos YOU'RE ready to shed a few kgs. Not bcos of those rude bullies!!! And if you want to eat yummy foods then do it!!! Don't stop enjoying your life bcos of ppl that don't matter. I think they're miserable and sulky bcos they don't eat lekker food. Lol 

Blackrose you just made my day, it helps knowing that theres other people that's also struggling. Yes I think they're jealous too that they can't eat lekker kos.  

SilverB7 there's a whole community of us struggling... 🤗And an even bigger one that will support you and each other in times like this... Ive got your back! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Stay fabulous and treat yourself every now and then with the lekker kossies. Xxx  

Thank you very much blackrose! We need more people in this world like you!! 

Last year I went home for easter and my step moms mother saw me, said hello and said "you're bigger than the last time I saw you" hahahaha... I was so embarrassed and it was infront of my boyfriend! I almost dam well ate her 😂 

@DahneLourens you should of said she looks muuuuuuuch older than the last time you saw her!!!!  

blackrose759 Yoh I would so love to, but I just can't bring myself to say something like that 🤣 🤣 🤣 but I'm sure if I'm pushed more I will say something. I am going home in December after Christmas... Let's see if she has anything to say.. And she isn't the smallest person herself🙄  

Now thats my thing.. The ppl that has sooo much to say about our weight isn't aways slim and slender... And look how considerate and respectful you are by not saying anything nasty about her appearance... But maybe you should start practising what you want to say...Something nice but not too nice (if u get me😜😅) and you never know....itll maybe just slip out like her unnecessary comments! And besides.. it'll be in December... So u can say and do as u please and be excused with the famous saying "is f#kkol is festive" hahahaha  

Exactly!!! the woman who said that of me is 3 times my size, and her daughter, my age, 2 times my size. DahneL I agree with blackrose, practise to say something 'nice'😉 you never know if you'll need it. 

We're all in this together. Everyone has experienced something crappy like this- doesn't make one feel any better though. What annoys me are the 'not so nice' comments from my family members/friends - I used to feel fat even when I wasn't. Others have definitely won the mental battle over me sometimes. I think I used to eat more because of the emotional stress. I already know I'm fat (I own a mirror), I don't understand why people feel the need to remind me of how I look. Everyone has their own self-esteem issues, but when one of those issues is bodyweight people are ok being mean about it🤔 Anyway, we will lose weight on our own terms despite these people. Sometimes these comments come out of the blue unexpectedly, when you're enjoying life and when you're off guard - so it really hits you hard and you don't have a sharp comeback. It happens. I'm sorry that someone affected your day negatively. Let it just be a day, because she doesn't deserve any more of your time or energy. Just remember - fat you can change but being mean is a personality trait (an ugly one at that) 😜 

Manji you are right I'm going to use it as motivation to loose weight rather than let it get me down. Everytime I want to give up I'm just going to think about proving all of them wrong. I'm sorry to hear about your mean family they should be supporting you rather than being mean about it. 

Totally agreeing with you Manji123👏🏻🤗😘  

hang in there. itll get better 

Thank you so much for all the support guys! It's people like you bunch that keep me possitive. 

Jealousy makes you nasty 😉