The best part... we were told this same SIL didn’t ‘care one bit’, her words, when I told her we were inviting them to two sporting events and asked if they’d come. I know she meant time wise but still rude AF. As we walked out the door, as I was trying to herd kids that is, I got a run down of everyone who decided they’d grace us with their presence last minute. The same SIL who didn’t care one bit and had a movie to go to (that has been playing for over a week and plays next week too) plus a list of names I didn’t listen to because I was trying to get my kids to the car in the cold. THIS is why people hate the holidays lol.
03 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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Phew! Goodnight. Go to sleep friend! 😘❤️
03 Jan 20 by member: wifey9707
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Too hyped up and head pounding to sleep. Will soon hopefully!
03 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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Also forgot to mention how this same SIL told my child that she basically would rather go see a movie than go to her game. Thankfully she told the wrong child because if she’d told my middle my middle would’ve more than likely burst out in tears. It’s this way every year with this same person. Guess we’ve offended her somehow is all I can figure.
03 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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Eat your Snickers my girlfriend, eat that Snickers and have a beer 🍻.💜💚
03 Jan 20 by member: jcmama777
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One beer down. Still deciding on the snickers ;). It’s staring me down lol.
03 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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OMG! I hate that for you! I would have so been fuming too! I have a big mouth though, I would have smiled and looked straight at her and said, "Dont ever worry about getting me a Christmas gift as I'd rather have no gift at all then a used one." And loud for all in laws to hear! Ya sorry I'm a bad person.😡
03 Jan 20 by member: MamaCabral7
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Peeper Jen, you my friend had a fudged up day😩🤦🏻♀️😂😂 if you have not eaten it by now, save it or bang it but savor it😋 you know you got this and you always leave room for your Snickers in your RDI. 💜💚 Friend you work out and have been able to fit your snickers in😂 made me feel comfortable to enjoy the occasional Snickers! I support which ever way you go♥️
03 Jan 20 by member: jcmama777
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03 Jan 20 by member: jcmama777
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sorry u had stressful xmas! One relative gave me the exact gift that I saw someone else gave her last year. Happened before too. I eat candy or chocolate occasionally or I will go nuts! When I was younger, I went years without eating any dessert and it backfired on me! Started eating candy everyday for stress relief.
03 Jan 20 by member: pocahontas1972
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Btw it helps that my protein shakes& powders are chocolate flavor! Protein helps reduce my hunger pangs& cravings. Anyway a bit of candy once in a while won't hurt as long as we try stay on track.
03 Jan 20 by member: pocahontas1972
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Give the clothes (not the used ones) to a woman's shelter. Do not invite the SIL to ANYTHING, and avoid the toxic family members as much as possible. Sit your children down before the occasion and tell them the ground rules and the consequences for breaking the rules and follow through.
03 Jan 20 by member: shirfleur 1
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😡🤬 Your SIL is toxic and I would cut her. But I’m a misanthrope. 😬
03 Jan 20 by member: adultosaur
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Ok so we found out the shirt IS new. The company writes initials in them that look just like sharpie. And no it’s not the company initials and yes it is still SIL’s moms initials lol. By bad on that part. The rest still stands.
04 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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@vca, a year ago I would’ve mouthed off for sure. I would’ve uninvited them to the game. I’m trying to destress my life and therefore learn to let things roll off. I just fined for a few hours and was over it by morning. Normally I’d have agreed on it for a week and made myself sick. Yay for getting some meds that allow me to focus on something else so I can get my mind where I want it :). Depending on how the day goes I still might say something if she keeps it up. Will just have to see.
04 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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Thank you for the comments and support! And sorry about the shirt mix up!
04 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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One of my SILs just likes to create tension and drama. She does it to everyone, so I don't take it personally. I do avoid her, though. I see her once a year on Christmas eve. That's enough.
04 Jan 20 by member: cmg1964
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I understand how you feel but that said, keep a positive attitude. It isn't worth the stress. Easier said than done, but I'm trying to weed out negative in my life and focus on positive. Let's do it together as it's not an easy thing for me..💜💜💜💜
04 Jan 20 by member: Diana 1234
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@cmg, I avoid my SIL too mostly. @Diana sounds like a plan! I’d become a negative person and still fall back into it on occasion. Thankfully we only see this person about 6 times a year. It also helps that she didn’t like the dinner plans and tried to get it changed and didn’t. It’s one time she didn’t control every aspect so it’s mean of me but I’m positive about that lol. Taking the day as it comes and not stressing over her comments last night.
04 Jan 20 by member: peeperjj
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She must live a sad life. Probably a lot of stuff behind the scenes that no one knows about and it makes her miserable, thus making her want everyone around her miserable as well? Idk but I’m glad our family exchanges gift cards, with prior inquiry where each wants it from etc. Saves gift drama at least and we all live very far apart so 99% of Christmases are spent separated. I’d love to see my fam more but if all this stuff was involved, then no, just no!! When we did live close, there are some awful memories of similar stuff. Glad we moved.
04 Jan 20 by member: wifey9707
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