peeperjj's Journal, 02 October 2018

Well done for being chilled about it - here's to loads (ok... a little!) of ice cream tomorrow. :) 

That sucks. I've been buying things that the rest of the family doesn't really like. Like raspberry preserves and non-chocolate ice cream, haha.  

I’m a planner and I do best on schedules and with lists. It totally throws me when something is off. With 5 of us, all kids in basketball, middle in 3 clubs too, oldest in volleyball and track as well as grades slipping, hubbys job and lots of work trips, the family farm, and well, everything else I NEED schedules and lists or something doesn’t get done, someone misses something and gets penalized for it etc. That has carried over into food which was part of my weight gain. I’m trying to be less rigid and more flexible but it usually turns out badly for someone. My middle didn’t put her cross country meet on the calendar and I chose to let everyone sleep in not knowing she had something. Was a rough day when she remembered and of course I should’ve remembered her mentioning awhile back that it was coming up. Hubby takes one to morning practice and another once a week to morning practice and that’s where his parenting ends. Oh and he goes to games and coaches one Y team. I help but have to do all the work except help with his half of the kids during the hour practice. It’s too much without keeping set schedules and again, this has spilled over into every faucet of my life. :/ It’s easy to get overwhelmed and frustrated at the little things.  

D that’s one of my problems. They develop a liking for anything that’s ‘mine’. They ‘hate’ fajitas and complain that I make them too much. Want to guess what the kids order when we go eat Mexican?? They disliked diet pop but once I started buying it for myself now they sneak it and say they’ve always love it. They’ve even gotten into my protein snacks and that’s not healthy for children. I have the two youngest scared that it might shut their kidneys down if they eat much of it lol. The oldest is 12, 5’0 and 100-110# so it probably wouldn’t hurt her with 2 hours PE daily and half an hour practices daily. Yet she drinks 0 water. Literally maybe 8 oz a day and one glass of milk. I’ve grounded her for a month saying she will be ungrounded when she can drink 24 oz of water daily and I gave up after a month. Her dr and mine say ‘force her’. Ever try forcing a kid to do anything? Lol. She’s been this way since she was little. If I refuse to give her much food she will drink more but that’s not good either. I’ve taken to hiding some of my snacks. I buy them enough to have one snack per day and either sugary cereal or pop tarts for breakfast. Plus I get things like chips, nuts and fruit for them. Yet they eat it all halfway through the month and some of mine. 😳 Last month I spent over $100 just on snacks, not including the breakfast stuff and nuts/fruit. Also not including trips to sonic, candy and nachos at games etc. That’s why I don’t feel bad about getting a $5 smoothie once weekly lol. Man kids are expensive and eat way too much junk!  

Wow, you have a lot on your plate. Props to you for being able to diet on top of all of that. I know that I've been able to focus more lately because my girls can take care of themselves for the most part and they aren't really into sports besides summer softball. I can't imagine having the time to do what I do with everything you have going on. 

My youngest(10 year old) used to be like that about water until she went through constipation a couple of times. She wants to avoid that now! :P 

Oh mine has cronic constipation. Dr said to take miralax daily. She refuses unless it gets bad. She will even go so long that it makes her physically ill. Nothing I or the drs say seems to get through to her. But our counselor thinks she is ODD (oppositional defiant) with me, her sisters and half of her peers. Be thankful your kiddos aren’t that busy! Half of the year we have something every single day from October to March except school breaks. Summer we have volunteering, harvest and planting (we help some but I refuse to take on more) plus gardening, camps, workshops etc. Last summer I was home 6 weekdays without having to leave the house.  

March/April is track so 3 days a week, August to May is daily morning practices. Middle has ambassadors, 4H and gifted programs that meet monthly on different days from Aug-May. Mid April to end of May we have 2-3 days each week where I volunteer at the school or kids have programs, competitions etc. I LOVE being able to do things for them and get them places but man it gets overwhelming! That’s why workouts get pushed aside sometimes. I have half the weekdays from 7:30-3:30 for housework, workouts, errands and my appointments. Some days I wish I had a job and could hire a nanny to do all this stuff so I could have a break and actually speak to adults in person about things not involving school or kids or health haha. Dieting is easy at home. When we are gone it’s hard. NO healthy low cal places here except subway. Even the salads without dressing are usually 600-1000 calories. 😳 

That doc also thinks sugar is the reason for fat. He doesn't seem too knowledgeable, no offense. 

Yes he did. He actually said daily until she went. After that it was as needed if she didn’t go but he also knows that she usually won’t go daily without the miralax. He seems like a good doctor but on some things I’m starting to wonder.