Rckc's Journal, 12 May 2016

Good going on the stifling of the urge to "fix" everything, I've been a member of Alanon for about 17 years, it's hard not to try to reason with them and then if that does not work, yelling at them, pointing out that they are ruining their lives. I always called it rubbing their noses in their own poo. Do you have a support group that can help carry you through this? It's simple, but not easy. You have my support and prayers!  

Prayers!  

Prayers 

Sending prayers for you and your daughter. Stay strong. 

Thinking of you and your daughter, sending prayers. 

I understand as my son is a binge drinker. His whole life has been turned inside out because of drinking but he won't learn from his mistakes. I dread the day he gets a license permit again and can drive legally. He has served jail time due to driving under the influence - this losing his job, his bank account, and his car. It's been hard for him to stand on his own two feet because of his indulgences. Distancing yourself is all you can do to keep your sanity. It is up to your daughter to stop the madness. You are not alone. 

Its like what my moms been going through with my sister. She is recovering from heroin addiction. She is finally sober a year now and moved back home. I went through this with my mother on how to handle the situation. She tries to fix the problem too, but she always makes it worse because she stresses herself out so much it brings more negativity into the family. I think you are smart stepping away from the situation. Sometimes people need to be adults and figure it out on their own. That person has to WANT to get better. Yes we family can be supportive and that will truly help. But it has to come within the person to change. 

Very hard to establish boundaries with our kids... Good luck to you and your daughter. 

Sending support your way. Take of yourself through this difficult time as well. 

Prayers for you and your family in this difficult time. 

Sending you warm thoughts, support and prayers to both of you. 

Sending prayer your way! Stay strong I know it's hard when it's one of your kids.  

Prayers sent a big hug to you.  

Hang in there! I know that is tough. Dealt with a lot of that with my wife's family. It's tough. 

do not get despondent , it is a long process,this is when they need the support. but it is soooo difficult  

Hang in there 

Addiction is rough, especially when it's your child. We all want to fix situations and prevent pain. Stay strong, prayers 

Thank you all... 

Hard for you; harder for her. Prayers for you both! 

My husband is a recovering alcoholic. He is currently 6 years sober. It is so hard, but it is also so possible. You're doing the right thing by acknowledging that you can't fix it for her and by giving her (and yourself) that distance. As a mom, my heart breaks for your heart! I will be praying for your family!