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People are funny. Like many people I used food as a way to hide feelings that I just did not want to deal with, depression, anger, lack of self worth and many others. When this journey began I decided that the only person who mattered in all of this way me. My self worth, my health, JUST ME! For more years than I can remember, I have always put my family first, never me. NEVER! It seems now, they are not liking it very much. I mean come on, I live alone, support myself, pay my bills, and pretty much dont need anything. At the start of my weight loss battle it seemed alot of support was there and now that I am near the end of the battle, now I am getting comments that I am too skinny. Oh give me a break! At 232 they would never say that I was too fat, but at 145 they can say I am too skinny! Why am I seeking comfirmation of their approval? So first to lay it on the line my measurements are 39-32-37. I am still built like a tree trunk. I may be 145 I am 5'5 but there is still alot of fat to get rid of. My waist to hip ratio is at 31.8% body fat. .2% more and I am in the obese catogory. Imagine that. However my BMI is at 24%, makes no sense to me. I know that exercise will get rid of the body fat and that is my main focus now, but too skinny! Why cant' they just be happy for me, that I am getting healthy and I am getting MY life together and that I want to be happy for the first time in many years?
This is my family, yes my family, the people who are suppose to love and care about me! Yikes! For goodness sake I am almost 51 years old, I am under the care of 4 freaking doctors and none of them have a concern in the world about my weight loss, why should my family think I am too skinny? I just cant seem to get my brain wrapped around that one.
Diet Calendar Entries for 29 May 2010:
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835 kcal
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Fat: 58.45g | Prot: 60.59g | Carb: 9.89g.
Breakfast: bacon, coffee. Lunch: Chicken or Turkey Salad, Cheddar Cheese. Dinner: beef ribeye. Snacks/Other: atkins peanut butter cups. more...
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2961 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Walking (moderate) - 3/mph - 1 hour, Yard Work (gardening) - 1 hour, Housework - 4 hours, Standing - 2 hours, Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 6 hours, Sleeping - 6 hours, Resting - 4 hours. more...
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Well done!!! It must have been hard work to get to this point of weight loss. Sometimes family love you for what you are and when you change they feel threatened by it. They worry that you will change your personality and have no room for them anymore. They don`t understand that your new way of life can also incorporate them! Show them even more love and reaffirm to them how happy you are at losing weight, they will soon give you the support you need! I lost a lot of weight but cos of illness have put it all back on and more so I`m starting again today. You are an inspiration to me. Keep going!
29 May 10 by member: ymh70
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ymh70,thank you for your words of support. Dont get me wrong, I love my family, but, there has be a point where there is both give and take. Otherwise, it does not work, because someone will feel as like they are being used. I had to draw that line, they are not happy, so I guess this their way of getting back at me. Sad as it may sound. I guess that is why is hurts to a point. It is hard to say that it does not matter because it does. But, I can not let it stop me. I have to accept them for who they are, I would just like them to do the same for me. But then again I cant make people think or feel things that they dont.
29 May 10 by member: sir4max
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People always get angry when they are not allowed to continue to use someone. You did the right thing setting limits and they probably will never like you doing that. You sound like you are at a great weight. Congratulations for reaching your goal! They are probably fearful of change and angry that they have to change their behavior to get healthier not that you have gotten healthier. You are doing a great job and have made some terrific changes not only in your weight but in your approach to your family. Great job!!!
30 May 10 by member: Multiplicity1
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