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Long time absence - little accomplished :-(
Thanks to all who have responded with your beautiful compassion & words of support. I'm trying to move forward. I'm not sure how to utilize fat secret in my efforts. Ant tips, suggestions, help?

posted 31 May 2013, 06:40

Long time absence - little accomplished :-(
I signed up for fat secret in 2008. In all that time I've never posted anything. My life has been one crisis after another. First I lost my 65K per year job, due to the sudden closing of the company I worked for. This happened
3 months after buying a house. It took me 3 months to find a job, earning about 20K less per year. We adjusted, and with my husband's disability we were still able to meet our expenses. For the next three years my health steadily declined. I had several unsuccessful surgeries, the last in 2010 sent me into septic shock. I was hospitalized for a couple of weeks & nearly died. For the next year, my health & ability to work continued a downward spiral, until I became completely disabled and without any income. We could no longer keep up with the bills, and within 6 months could not pay the mortgage. We soon had to file bankruptcy, and shortly thereafter our home was in foreclosure proceedings. Our marriage did not survive. I left my husband, and the next day had surgery to remove my thyroid. That was when I lost 50 lbs. Then my thyroid medication quit working and I gained back over 10 lbs. Sad

Now I'm on an adjusted dose of that, along with a ton of medications for my multiple health problems. I finally actually counted them the other day. They've got me taking TWENTY SEVEN pills a day!! Last year we learned that my 7 year old granddaughter was sexually molested by a close relative, and I thought I'd lose my mind. I had gone through the exact situation when my oldest son was also 7. I couldn't believe I was reliving it all over again. My daughter-in-law, who is now single parenting, also nearly fell apart. We cried a lot together. Her dad, who was suffering from incurable cancer, helped us immensely during the next few months. I grew to love him, and the rest of my daughter-in-law's family. Such wonderful and loving people! Then, right after Christmas last year, he developed an intractable infection. He was in and out of the hospital for five months. Two weeks ago, we learned that his cancer had spread to his liver. One week ago he was sent home with hospice care, there being nothing left the doctors could do for him. Even though he was in immense pain, he kept his good humor. Nonetheless, he succumbed to the cancer and passed away, quite unpleasantly, last Wednesday. All of his children were with him, including my daughter-in-law. At the same time we learned that his cancer had spread to his liver, we learned that my daughter-in-law's mother has throat cancer and that it, too has metastasized, with cancer cells having invaded her bloodstream. She has a 50/50 chance of survival, with surgery and as much chemo & radiation as her body will handle. I wonder how much more God can possibly ask my poor daughter-in-law to handle. So, you can see why, these past five years, dieting hasn't exactly been high on my priority list. But now, when my help is so badly needed, I'm making my health a priority, realizing that I'm not as much help as I could be if I were in better health. I would so appreciate the prayers of those of you who pray, for my daughter-in-law, my grand children & myself. Thanks for 'listening' to my rant. I'll try to keep you posted - at least on my weight struggles.

posted 20 May 2013, 03:38

Long time absence - little accomplished :-(
I signed up for fat secret in 2008. In all that time I've never posted anything. My life has been one crisis after another. First I lost my 65K per year job, due to the sudden closing of the company I worked for. This happened
3 months after buying a house. It took me 3 months to find a job, earning about 20K less per year. We adjusted, and with my husband's disability we were still able to meet our expenses. For the next three years my health steadily declined. I had several unsuccessful surgeries, the last in 2010 sent me into septic shock. I was hospitalized for a couple of weeks & nearly died. For the next year, my health & ability to work continued a downward spiral, until I became completely disabled and without any income. We could no longer keep up with the bills, and within 6 months could not pay the mortgage. We soon had to file bankruptcy, and shortly thereafter our home was in foreclosure proceedings. Our marriage did not survive. I left my husband, and the next day had surgery to remove my thyroid. That was when I lost 50 lbs. Then my thyroid medication quit working and I gained back over 10 lbs. Sad

Now I'm on an adjusted dose of that, along with a ton of medications for my multiple health problems. I finally actually counted them the other day. They've got me taking TWENTY SEVEN pills a day!! Last year we learned that my 7 year old granddaughter was sexually molested by a close relative, and I thought I'd lose my mind. I had gone through the exact situation when my oldest son was also 7. I couldn't believe I was reliving it all over again. My daughter-in-law, who is now single parenting, also nearly fell apart. We cried a lot together. Her dad, who was suffering from incurable cancer, helped us immensely during the next few months. I grew to love him, and the rest of my daughter-in-law's family. Such wonderful and loving people! Then, right after Christmas last year, he developed an intractable infection. He was in and out of the hospital for five months. Two weeks ago, we learned that his cancer had spread to his liver. One week ago he was sent home with hospice care, there being nothing left the doctors could do for him. Even though he was in immense pain, he kept his good humor. Nonetheless, he succumbed to the cancer and passed away, quite unpleasantly, last Wednesday. All of his children were with him, including my daughter-in-law. At the same time we learned that his cancer had spread to his liver, we learned that my daughter-in-law's mother has throat cancer and that it, too has metastasized, with cancer cells having invaded her bloodstream. She has a 50/50 chance of survival, with surgery and as much chemo & radiation as her body will handle. I wonder how much more God can possibly ask my poor daughter-in-law to handle. So, you can see why, these past five years, dieting hasn't exactly been high on my priority list. But now, when my help is so badly needed, I'm making my health a priority, realizing that I'm not as much help as I could be if I were in better health. I would so appreciate the prayers of those of you who pray, for my daughter-in-law, my grand children & myself. Thanks for 'listening' to my rant. I'll try to keep you posted - at least on my weight struggles.

posted 20 May 2013, 03:37

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