I have been overweight my entire life except for brief periods when I perceived myself as overweight because I had no muscle tone whatsoever. So now I'm 61 and I weigh too much and I have heart disease and diabetes. I no longer desire to lose weight so that I can be attractive to someone. I am very happily married to a man who thinks I'm beautiful and makes me think so too - but - I want to bask in this life for at least another twenty years and I want to not spend time in hospitals. So I'm taking all this fitness stuff seriously now. I exercise 3 times a week - 20 minutes of mild cardio and 20 minutes of weight assist machinery. My goals are: 1)to live a minimum of 20 more years; 2) to get my diabetes under control and (hopefully) get off insulin; and 3) to not obsess over my diet. All help and good wishes are appreciated.