Bird Fancier's Journal, 05 January 2012

Ok Bird Fancier...you're not alone. I went through a similar situation during the holidays and my husband isn't much better. I've only lost 25 lbs. But you've come too fat to turn back now. You should feel good about your accomplishments during the holidays. You made them smile; be proud of yourself for that! Take that as their non-verbal appreciation and don't down yourself. Ok, so you gained 10 lbs, so...that means you've still lost 50 right? Be proud of that and start there. Do it for YOU, not for anyone else. Be proud of who you are and appreciate yourself and the rest won't matter. We are here for you here on FATSECRET whether anyone else is or not. Smile and keep going, for YOU.  

Thanks getmoody! I luv your name! Yes, I have been trying to lose this weight for myself so that I could have healthy knees & heart etc...but, I am still bummed that my husband of 25 years can not find the consideration to pay a simple compliment. I am still bummed that my "friends/family" find it more appealing to ruin my success than to be happy for me and supportive. It really hurts my feeling when people accuse me of drug use, bulimia etc as an explanation of how I lost the weight. It seems that Atkins way-of-eating is just not acceptable to any of them. It is really strange how people act when the boat gets rocked. thanks for your support Getmoody 

You're welcome. I am 41 to be 42 in June. I "think" I'm actually beginning menopause myself, but not sure. Still confused about that. I have been with my husband for 20 years come the 28th of this month. I hear very few compliments from him too. But, you know; we only live once! I have just decided to focus on what I know I do and be proud of myself for who I am. I try to set a good example and use the golden rule. I am a sensitive person and sometimes my feeling get hurt too, especially when I don't feel appreciated. But, I have to remind myself of who I know I am, and hold my head high, and smile and try to enjoy the life I'm in. If my husband doesn't compliment me the way I wish he would or people show me the appreciation I think they should, then I have just made up my mind that "IT'S THEIR LOSS". I want to enjoy the time I have on this earth, and by golly, I'm doing eveything I can to do just that! Being thinner makes ME happy and I'm heading that way. I'm proud of you for your accomplishments and I'm glad we found one another. By the way, my name came from my last name...I figured since I'm married to a man with the last name that matches him perfectly, it made sense...lol. Have a good night. Thanks for adding me as a buddy.