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so I hate my body. there I said it. I hate my sagging skin. but it's my body and I'm allowed to critique it. But when I'm being critical of it and standing in front of the mirror looking at myself your not supposed to agree with me and tell me to hide with longer shirts or wear a belt it'll hide it, or ask me about girdles. your not supposed to ask me if my insurance will remove the skin. your not supposed to say fat girls are ugly in thongs. your dating a fat girl. 17 yrs of this and you wonder why I have body image issues? making fun of the way my sister looks or any big girl and ,my sister weighs 100 pounds less then me and is 4 inches shorter then me carries all in her middle, is not ok! then tells me I'm not fat. I'm fat I know it but you need to stuff it!
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283.8 lb
Lost so far: 62.7 lb.
Still to go: 83.8 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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Diet Calendar Entries for 27 February 2022:
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1260 kcal
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Fat: 55.44g | Prot: 29.93g | Carb: 163.21g.
Breakfast: Mrs. Freshley's Fruit Pies - Cherry, Bacon, Coffee (Brewed From Grounds) , Nabisco Nutter Butter Bites. Lunch: Aquafina Water (16.9 oz), Dairy Queen Hot Fudge Sundae (Small). Dinner: Margarine (Regular) , Black Pepper , Ground Beef (80% Lean / 20% Fat) , Kroger Enriched Thin Spaghetti Noodles. Snacks/Other: Nestle Bit-O-Honey Candy. more...
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3634 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Housework - 20 minutes, Walking (slow) - 2/mph - 17 minutes, Stairs (Climbing Stairs) - 10 minutes, Showering - 9 minutes, Shopping - 1 hour and 30 minutes, Sleeping - 8 hours, Resting - 11 hours and 34 minutes, church. standing, singing, talking. - 2 hours. more...
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steady weight
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Remember to love yourself unconditionally. You don’t need to be thin to be beautiful. You are perfect the way God made you. And thongs miserably uncomfortable anyway 😘
27 Feb 22 by member: Staceyfitness1
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Its hard.. I've been abused by men he knows this..
I'm very insecure and very self conscious about my body. And he doesn't help. He's not supposed to agree and make comments. Those comments make it eorse for me. I don't make comments about the weight hrs gained. I've lost weight. He's gained weight. My x husband had me so body conscious, he stopped touching me after our last son was born. Would rather watch porn and do himself. My current man knows this. I've just about had enough. This man is supposed to b encouraging me, lifting me up. Instead my sisters husband and my best friend of 30 yrs who's a married man are my male support. Wth????
27 Feb 22 by member: tweetledee
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I wish I could hug you. I am currently going thru the same with my fiancé. I’m calling our engagement off because of it, I just hate that I hate myself now when I use to love me. I am truly sorry from the bottom of my heart because I know how hurtful it is when the ones we love are the ones putting us down. I’m not sure how long you’ve been with your SO but I’ve been with mine for 10 and the first 8 were great (hs sweethearts) these last two have gone from love to hate. The man he use to be would’ve never talked to me the way he does now and then wonder why I’m insecure when he says he could do better. Keep working towards your goal, do it for you not for your bf. I would say ignore him but I know too well it’s easier said than done. Hugs! 💕
27 Feb 22 by member: Yelizzle
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Staceyfitness1 is right, you were made perfect in God’s image.
As an advocate for survivors of domestic abuse and a survivor myself, abuse not just visible bruises, it’s gaslighting, it’s mental abuse, it’s verbal abuse, it’s emotional abuse.
Love isn’t supposed to be hurtful or condemning. It’s not supposed to be cruel or belittling. Run from this.
Love is patient, love is kind, it holds no record of wrong doing, it is not jealous nor boastful.
You deserve healthy love.
27 Feb 22 by member: annamommy
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Yelizzle I've been with him 17 yrs. He helped me heal in alot of ways. Helped me trust again. Helped get my voice back does that make sense? Then I don't know what happened? He got depressed somewhere along the way and he started changing. The more weight I lose the worse he gets. He was great in the beginning. He'd brag about me and take me shopping, but then I'd notice he'd critique my body and how things looked on me. Laugh at the skin hanging on my arms. Laugh at people that have lost alot of weight and have skin that hangs and talk about how gross that is. Well if I lose that next 100 pounds boy that's going to b me. Just saying. I guess looking back he's always done it and I never noticed. Yes it's very abusive to your soul.
28 Feb 22 by member: tweetledee
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Hi Tweedle, Nobody deserves to be treated like this and it is horrible to hear. You are doing great working to get the weight off as I am trying as well. It is not easy but keep on keeping on and remember you are doing this for you. As for skin it's skin. That can be fixed down the road. This about you and how you feel on the inside and that is what counts.
28 Feb 22 by member: chkstr1
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Tweetledee didn’t ask anyone to say she or other overweight people look hot in thongs. She just asked that her partner refrain from unnecessary negative comments around her. Seems like a fair request
28 Feb 22 by member: cindylynnwho
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Most women look bad in thongs and pictures in magazines or on social media are filtered and photoshopped for even the most beautiful of us.
28 Feb 22 by member: Christine145
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You're accomplishing something and being successful losing weight. You said he's gaining weight. Could he feel some jealousy, feel threatened that you're doing it with or without his praise? Could he like being in control of how you feel about yourself more than seeing you becoming self actualized? Pffft! Sad he can't celebrate your success. None of us has a perfect body. I try to feel good about positive changes such as healthier eating, growing stronger physically and clothes fitting nicer. I surround myself with others working toward goals, all kinds and find positive energy to keep moving toward my goals. It's clear that you understand what love is. He can learn a lot from you.
28 Feb 22 by member: losingtowin1
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chkstr1 thank you. It's not about the things. It's about his comments. Empower me. Or I'll find a man that does. One day he's going to wake up and find me gone if he's not careful I'm so tired of the way things are. I'm tired of feeling like this. Ty u for your comments my pastor is going to try to counsel us this week. We shall see.
28 Feb 22 by member: tweetledee
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are you sure want to use the hate, or perhaps you just like what you see right now. the fact that you are apart of this says alot. Stop beating yourself up and do what you need to do for YOU!!!!
28 Feb 22 by member: ctusa95
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ctusa95 u stand where I am. U be a victim of rape, u be have you x husband constantly talk watch porn and compare your body to them, then stop touching you, you deal with emotional abuse and mental abuse. Constantly telling you your not good enough. Keeping you isolated and dependent on him. Then you meet a new guy who you thought was great but constantly makes comments. Let's see if you like, love, or hate the skin your in. Yes I'm offended that you think I'm part of the problem. (Seems to say alot) comment. If you've not been body shamed or your weight criticisized be someone you loved and it hurt your soul get off my comments. Don't speak on matters you know nothing about!
01 Mar 22 by member: tweetledee
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