05 Apr 18 by member: terosy
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05 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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05 Apr 18 by member: janey1566
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每天起床看著鏡子對自己說:我很棒~我很棒~我最棒~
PS:記得保持微笑喔😊
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謝謝，我一直有在努力。
但有時憤怒的情緒就像烏雲一般
盤據我的心裡。
真希望能修好心裡的避雷針，
好應付雷雨交加時
打下來的那道閃電。
05 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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be encouraged. don't let little things stress you out! stay strong in life and not just in weight loss. tomorrow will be a better day. stay focused on U. don't worry about the world. (((exhale))) hope things get better for U. (((hugs)))
05 Apr 18 by member: marshakanady
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心情不好的時候就去騎飛輪！快走！做運動！才不會一直往死裡想，然後自己關在負面情緒的死胡同裡
05 Apr 18 by member: zxc_ad2
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You are a good person and every minute of every day we choose how to act and react to life. You can’t control much in life but you can control the way you react things.
05 Apr 18 by member: momma6224
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@marshkanady, yep, I'll have to realise that
this world isn't a perfect place,
and being alive is already a blessing.
I need to be down to earth instead of
wishing everything will change for the better.
@amandakane1, thanks, and I agreed that I had to fix those problems.
But I know clearly it has nothing to do with the diet.
I'm just simply not happy with myself and my life.
I must solve the weight problem ahead.
I understand that appearance is not all
but still plays a huge part in our life.
I am really grateful for your support.
05 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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@zxc_ad2，謝謝你，我會試著用運動轉換心思。
但我覺得自己修行還不夠，所以必須進一步貫徹真理。
我以為自己了解某些事情，但殊不知已被狂妄所遮蔽。
我最近對佛教非常有興趣，讀到煩惱其實源於無明，
我會多向內尋求平靜，不要輕易被外物影響。
在此，即便遇到負面的事，我也會加以記錄，
我希望能看到自己這一路上心態的變化。
真的很謝謝你，我不會放棄的。
06 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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@momma6224, thank you.
I've been reading some books about Buddhism recently
and realised that the root cause of our suffering is really ignorance,
from which arises unrealistic expectation, mismatch reality, and frustration.
All these can result in negative emotions such as anger and sorrow.
And you are so right when you say we can control the way we react to things
because it is also said that nothing in the outside world
can force us to be angry; it is actually our response to the situations.
In my case, the reason I became angry yesterday was
I didn't expect the situation would ever occur to me
without knowing that everything in this world could be somehow unexpected.
I'm not trying to promote Buddhist thinking or anything,
I just happened to read what you've said in a book,
and I was amazed by how right you are. Thank you.
06 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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I can hand out advice but I am not very great at following my own advice haha! from the little I know you, you seem like a very smart, kind person. We all lose control and get angry at times. Forgive yourself and try harder next time!
06 Apr 18 by member: momma6224
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原來有人跟我一樣有這種心情啊…🤜🤛
哈哈 有沒有發現你不孤單 😆
其實我也常為了介意一件小事 同事的眼色 使自己糾結很久
不過換個角度，種種挫折 衝突 讓我們發現自已的缺點 才有機會改善，每個人都有不同的缺點
我很配服你可以這麼坦白的說出自已的心情，我常說不出口自已藏在心裡 在這塊我是你的小小粉絲… ☺️😉
07 Apr 18 by member: Nainaifu
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07 Apr 18 by member: zxc_ad2
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根本超多粉絲的啊，超受歡迎的，海內外老少男女通吃說⋯⋯
07 Apr 18 by member: gulinlin
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@Nainaifu, zxc_ad2, and gulinin： 我也是你們的粉絲，大家的動態我也有在密切追蹤。 我最近一直在讀佛教的書 （雖說有在讀佛教的書，但我不是讚嘆seafood的料 對我而言，任何宗教的思想都是人生哲學 廣泛吸收應能對處世產生助益。） 結果發現存在於心中的惡念正是阻斷快樂的障礙。 我最大的問題是容易眼紅別人，總覺得其他人都過得很好。 不過現在我才了解，如果每個人都一樣好， 我們又有什麼目標可以追求？ 只是在追求目標的同時，要理解到事情有輕重緩急 凡事不能一蹴可幾等等。 同樣地，在面對情緒和處理問題時，我也應該靜心觀察 而非立即做出反應，搞得大家都不開心。 最後我真的很感激大家，我很努力要喜歡自己 但總不免覺得自己真的是很糟的人 不過我現在明白了，要喜歡自己，就必須端正自己的言行 如果自己做的是自己認為正確的事，自然就能接納尊重自己 相信自己就是自信。 這是大家讓我學習到的事，我很感激。 至於粉絲的事，我覺得是大家很正面又善良 所以才會不斷地鼓勵、勸勉我， 這不是客套話或耍官腔，是發自內心的肺腑之言。 真的非常謝謝。
07 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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08 Apr 18 by member: smprowett
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08 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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Leon, the anger manegement will come. 🤷🏻♀️Some is your sex and your age. Biologically men’s adrenaline response peaks in 10-15 minutes during a confrontation, women’s in 30-40...by then most men are calmed down and women are running for their lives with the children in the aftermath! 🙇🏻♀️LOL It’s that biology thing. A good author on some of the points of anger and internal issues relating it to violence and martial arts specifically is, Rory Miller. Look him up on Amazon. ‘Meditations on Violence.’ Is a good read about the steps that normally lead to confrontation and how to avoid them (or escalate them in your favor if you are a policeman or other first respondr that needs to)! He teaches many seminars around the world nowadays to martial artists on biolence and reactions to it.
08 Apr 18 by member: smprowett
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@smprowett, taking notes right now.
Will definitely read it. Thanks heaps.
08 Apr 18 by member: leon_tsai
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