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ever so slowly.
It looks like my good practices with my WOE worked at the conference I attended last week.
It was no fun drinking seltzer while others had wine, passing over the potatoes, pasta and desserts and going to bed when others stayed up, sharing a drink and conversation. I’m not comfortable enough to hang out when others are drinking and I can’t. And, to be honest, it makes me a little flummoxed to watch others eat those things and maintain their weight and not exercise. I don’t get it.
At some point, I’ve got to begin to incorporate new behavior patterns and realize that I can NEVER eat those things again or drink all the cocktails I want in the manner to which I was accustomed- that this is for life- but I’m not there yet.
I’ve lived so long in an all or nothing world. I know that the trick is to find the balance, but it gets me every time: I am a champ at losing and then fall off the rails for 6 months and gain it all back. I am too impatient to begin the moderate lifestyle NOW... I want to lose the weight first and THEN find the balance, as a way of maintenance... but... I’ve failed over and over- probably 10 times in my adult life of gaining and losing the same 30 lbs.
Thoughts?
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152.8 lb
Lost so far: 30.0 lb.
Still to go: 2.8 lb.
Diet followed reasonably well.
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Diet Calendar Entries for 02 July 2016:
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1238 kcal
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Fat: 55.69g | Prot: 66.94g | Carb: 136.15g.
Breakfast: Bob Evans Fresh Fruit Cup, Alouette Feta Cheese, Red Gold Diced Tomatoes, Scrambled Egg (Whole, Cooked). Lunch: Quest Chocolate Brownie Protein Bar. Dinner: Cornbread (from Mix), Vinaigrette Dressing, Tomatoes, Sunny Select Corn on The Cob, Hormel Boneless Pork Roast (Barbecue). Snacks/Other: Fruttare Coconut and Milk Bar, Snapple Diet Peach Iced Tea. more...
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2416 kcal
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Activities & Exercise:
Hiking - 2 hours, Resting - 14 hours, Sleeping - 8 hours. more...
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losing 1.4 lb a week
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 Comments
My first thought is that thirty pounds is nothing to get too worked up over. If you commit to three months of being really strict on yourself you'll be able to transition to a more balanced approach sooner rather than later. What IS fun, anyway, just perception and you have the power to change your perception, but that's way more work than just targeting problematic foods. Don't let what other people are doing effect you, you've only got control of your own facilities, that's scary and empowering at the same time. Nothing is off limits FOR EVER (cue echo effect), you should always budget time for doing anything you want to, but it has to be a conscience thing, knowing it's only temporary, but I don't recommend doing that until you're closer to your goal. If you fall off track, why wait six months to regroup? It's a daily battle that gets easier with practice.
02 Jul 16 by member: 1point21gigawatts
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thanks, Philmck. I’ve been feeling sorry for myself, I guess. So much of our cultural experience equates fun with food and drink.... and when I am trying to reduce, that seems to equal a lack of fun- in my mind. I waver between feeling sorry for myself and feeling empowered. When I fall off track it feels, emotionally, like a big “release.” It’s a control-thing. When I am losing weight I feel in control and can see results ( good) and when I fall off the wagon, it’s not that I “lose control” but that I no longer feel that the diet has its grips on me. It is a freedom thing. If it sounds confusing and screwed up- it is. IN the meantime, I am really good at keeping it going and losing the weight; I rarely slip up when i am committed to doing it. But that’s not especially the right mind set, either. All or nothing is not a good way to live.
02 Jul 16 by member: Revaudrey
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All or nothing is a recipe for distress. But you recognize it, and that's a big step to winning the battle. You're doing great, and in it for the long term, chipping away at old perceptions a little every day really adds up.
02 Jul 16 by member: 1point21gigawatts
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