angel_face0145's Journal, 09 April 2010

Is there a reason that he is against the food that you are eating? I'm having trouble understanding why it should matter to him...it's a shame that he isn't more supportive though. Is it possible for you to find a compromise so that he has the unhealthy food that he wants and that you can still continue to eat the healthy foods your body needs? 

Stay strong! If you have the willpower to quit smoking for 2.5 years, you can do anything. I don't know what your home situation is like, but is it possible to get a mini-fridge so he doesn't have to deal with your healthy food on a daily basis? Might be a good way to get around him and stay true to your goals... 

That was my next suggestion as well... 

I'm sorry to hear this :( I don't know the whole story with your family situation, but I do know that you need to beware anyone who wants to stop you from getting healthy and losing weight. It is usually a control issue or not wanting to see somebody do something that makes you think about what you should do yourself. But I do understand toxic family members. All too well. There are some people in life who you just have to make it your number one priority to get away from. If your step dad is one of these people, I am very sad for you because being in a house with a toxic person (someone who wants to control and sabotage everyone around them) is a nightmare. My heart goes out to you. Stress makes me want to smoke too. I've fallen off that wagon so many times in the past. I'm the master of quitting smoking. I've done it like 50 times! This time I hope is for good. I've learned not to say I'm sure because I've said it so many times in the past. 

I know what it feels like.My best wishes and prayers are for you. 

Stay strong... and know that we are here to help; and I am here if you need a person to talk to.. :) 

i had a step-father like that for most of my teenage life. sadly, i really don't have any great suggestions on how to deal with it. i finally moved in with my father, because he just was never home, instead of being actively toxic. the most important thing is to remember that this is your life, and your health. if your stepfather doesn't want healthy food in the house, you may have to be a little sneaky. (anything that doesn't have to be refridgerated, hide! =).) the mini-fridge was a great suggestion, if it's possible. (at 16 i got one, a lock for my bedroom door, and started paying my dad rent so i could have my own "apartment".) or see if you can compromise and have a drawer in the fridge, or one of the racks in the door... and then shove things into it as best you can. keep pushing forward, even though it seems impossible sometimes. and while this would be the last of my suggestions, i don't know how unreasonable your step-father is (mine was really out there) ... is there a wawa, 7-11, etc that you can go past frequently? cause if you really can't keep things at home at all, the price might add up, but atleast you could stop and grab an apple, a yogurt, some milk, a salad, etc. This sucks, but we're here for you.  

I am very sorry to hear about your stepfather and hope you can cope with this situation without turning to cigarettes. Maybe you can have your own little fridge in your room? The smaller ones are pretty cheap and you can probably just stick it in the closet.  

it seems like people like to sabotage us ... some mean to, some don't realize ... the mini fridge is a good idea ... then you don't even have to go in the fridge he has his junk in ... good luck!