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ITS ALL ABOUT INTEGRITY (& I'ts not about failure)
It's been really nice to get a few private messages from others who have found what I am sharing, helpful.
I am not sharing to make anyone wrong, it's just that I have learnt a lot on my coaching journey and as long as people are open to looking at what I share - I am happy to keep posting what I know. Sometimes it challenges our established thought processes and I understand that - different things work for different people - all I ask is that you keep an open mind and accept my posts as my humble contribution to this community.
FAILURE:
I don’t think there’s a person alive who has never “felt like a failure” at some point. Inside this experience of being a failure, we come up with an incredible amount of “reasons” – some we use to blame ourselves – I am not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not fast enough, not strong enough – you get the idea. But I invite you to consider this: Our reasons occur for us as real and so we have no issue using them as an excuse for giving up because we believe them, usually as a result of things that have happened to us. There's a bit more to it than this but I am just keeping it simple. It's a weight loss site, not a deep therapy session:-)
Sometimes we use our reasons to blame everything else but ourselves – we try and allocate the blame in order to “validate” ourselves – we blame the weather - it’s too hot, it’s too cold, we blame our equipment, we blame our food manufacturers for putting in too much sugar etc – (chocolate makers are excused) and this way we don’t have to be responsible.
How do we deal with “being a failure”. Would you like a breakthrough in this? Here goes...
If you look up a dictionary and look up the word failure, it describes it as a “breakdown in the area of performance” – it says nothing about us/you being a failure. It doesn’t say it is the word used to describe someone who can’t achieve what they set out to do. NO!! It is a breakdown in the area of performance. What it means is you just didn’t hit your target. That’s it!!
Yet for some reason, we have this apparent need as human beings to make this “breakdown in the area of performance” mean WE are the failure. We are not a/the failure yet we cuddle failure like it’s out favourite childhood teddy bear. It may be that we are responsible for “not hitting the target” but that does not make US a failure.
So, if you are struggling a bit and feeling like you are failing or even feel like a failure, then consider you are just a normal human being who didn’t hit the target. It's a much more empowering way to look at your weight loss journey.
So, when there is a breakdown in the area of performance – the thing to do is look for what was missing that might have made the difference and then make some changes. Hindsite gives us 20/20 vision!
It applies in any area of life, but for those of you who are struggling a bit and disempowered, then given we are on a weight loss site, my request is that this week, if you don’t hit your target, instead of feeling like a failure or that YOU have failed or just getting down on yourself, I request that you have a look at what was missing that might have made a difference.
Wendy
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