dontwant2befat's Journal, 08 September 2008

Oh Honey you are doing great! You have made some great choices and you are giving it your all. You are going to keep on goin and you will see some more results. I am sorry you are missing Larry. I hope your loving fun memories have filled you heart with love. Keep on try Hun, We are here for you!!!!!! Hugs, Denice 

You are hanging in there, and being conscious of where you're slipping and that's half the battle right there. Good for you. I just read yesterday's journal and will comment on that here--I am sorry about your experience in the park. Kids can be so nasty, and that's all a teenager is is a tall kid. It sounds like you are providing a healthy amount of activity for your daughter, and by changing your eating habits you are passing on a legacy of healthy eating to her. I have known several girls who were "pudgy" in the years before puberty even though they were quite active, but once they got well into their teen years, all of that baby fat fell off and they were gorgeous. I can't stand adults (parents) who allow their children to behave badly, and good for you for standing up for your daughter. I was in a Barnes & Noble with my mom one day and a little girl (probably about 4 or 5) was with her mother. The girl looked at my mother and I, turned to her mother, and said, "Mommy, those ladies are FAT!" and the mother, instead of correcting her said, "Mmmhmm, they are." and then giggled. GIGGLED! I was so shocked by the mom's reaction that I couldn't even respond. Now I believe in calling a spade, a spade and yes, I'm fat so the little girl's comment didn't upset me. But the mom had a perfect teaching opportunity, "Yes, they're fat, and I'm thin, and you're short, and that man's tall, but we're all beautiful people no matter how we look," but instead she used it as an opportunity to create a sense of otherness for her daughter that ultimately feeds the separation between all people--a separation that keeps us from realizing that we are all valuable and that we all need each other. Sorry..Got on my soapbox there..someone needs to kick that thing out from under me sometimes...my point is this, good for you for standing up to that mother, and good for you for having enough sense to instill in your daughter a sense of self-esteem rather than a sense of otherness. I think you rock! 

yum shrimp! don't beat yourself up about it! you can not deny, deny, deny! instead, embrace, embrace, embrace and then move on... now if I can only take my own advice, lol