Leslycat's Journal, 15 December 2017

Keto is a GREAT way to go for healing and weight loss! Common Sense Keto on FB is the absolute best keto resource I have EVER seen. (Not necessarily the comments by random members but the admin/Coach Jack's info at the top plus his support in the group.) And I agree FULLY: don't do it for him, do it for you. He doesn't deserve you.  

I have a lot to say, but won't! Changing gears, First you can achieve your goals if its for You and no one but you! Good luck let us know when you need something! 

Omgosh. I wanna give you a “sister” hug! My first husband (my children’s dad) used to say similar to me all the time. That he’d leave me if I ever got as large as my mom etc etc. please know it’s a problem on THEIR part, NOT yours. My hubby got a shock when I left him! Lol. It’s a control thing. You do what you want and need to do for YOU!! You can do this! Please let us know if we can help in any way! Blessings to you my dear ❤️ 

you look beautiful! I'm not blowing smoke up your +*/ . skinny doesn't equal beautiful. losing weight is about you feeling better in your body... not for the mirror. If your husband speaks like that then that's because there's something wrong with him. my mother and 2 of her sisters had gastric bypass and the other sister had liposuction. I come from genetically big women who all spent their lives focused on feeling bad about themselves. don't do that. loose weight if it will make you feel healthier... don't do it for that man. I want to hug you too.  

@Looped, totally with you on this one. @Godlessnorth1488, you are g*ddamn right. @LeslyCat, you need discipline. Going keto means nothing if you do not stick to a calorie deficit that makes you lose weight. Thinking that eating bacon will make you lose your bodyfat is a mistake, it is discipline that makes you lose your bodyfat and makes your life more intense, longer and happier. Not to mention that your husband will also change his attitude if you are strongly committed, losing weight and looking better by the day. I know it is not the usual tone of the messages on this forum, so bear with me. As for your husband, he signed up for something else, and nothing will make him (and therefore you) happy unless you hold your side of the bargain. Put down the damn donut and pick up a celery stick. Wishful thinking will just get you an unfulfilled, short and nasty life. Act upon your desires. Losing weight is probably the easiest thing in life, because it only depends on you, and this means, your establishing goals, a strategy, and holding an unwavering focus. You have tried "stopping, starting and eating terribly" and this is clearly not working out for you. Now is the time for hard decisions about your life. If you want to be happy and live longer, you need to get a grip on yourself. As for dieting seriousy, it is not easy. I do not believe in cheat days, that's BS. You want to lose weight, get on a diet (keto was the way for me), keep your calories low, keep your body toned by doing some exercises at home (simple stuff, knee push-ups, air squats, some core exercises) and you WILL look better, feel better, and be sharper and more focused. You will radiate energy and happiness. Everybody will love you more for this. You will be happier. Stop whining and get to it. It will change your life. You are a very pretty woman on your profile picture, and a wreck on your recent shot. Why do you let that happen to yourself? Now is the time to do it, fat is killing you, your love life, your happiness... and the solution is in your hands. If you choose to die sooner, live an unhappy life in the meantime, it is YOUR decision, but this forum is not the right place to discuss this. This is a place you will come back to have a look at a marker of the day when you turned your life around. And the earlier the better. Like now. Make this damn decision, get a kitchen scale, start using the calorie counter tool, and change your life. It is inevitable like gravity, eat right, eat less, quit booze, move, get beautiful again, feel 20 years younger, and change your freaking life. It is in your hands.  

First thing I would work on loosing, is the husband. 

It sounds like the first weight you need to lose is the weight of a verbally/emotionally abusive relationship. You deserve to be spoken to and treated with love and respect and support, not torn down by your husband.  

I wonder how successful some of the people making comments have been in long term relationships. Personally I've been married 25 years, together 28, and whether 125lbs or 215lbs my husband tells me I'm beautiful every single day. Not one time ever, I mean ever has he commented on my weight. Fat or skinny, he loves me. And I seriously mean never one comment. Your physical appearance does not define you. Sometimes people gain weight, lose a leg, get cancer, become disfigured. Sometimes people are financially successful and they lose everything in a bad economy or because they get sick and can't work. That's why your vows say "in sickness and in health, for richer for poorer". Life has ebbs and flows. If your partner loves you and respects you as a human being, they see past all or any of these things. A person who loves you encourages you and never ever belittles you, particularly when you are struggling. It is likely that you have gained the weight from emotional eating partially because your married to a lug and partially because you stopped caring about yourself. I wonder if his ex wife did the same. I hope you lose the weight for you. You need to make yourself, your life, and your health a priority. You matter, and you only get one life. You really can do this. It's great to be healthy. Nothing feels better. The first thing you need to do is have a good chat with that man who you share a home with and set him straight. If he continues to belittle and disrespect you, rise above it, lose the weight, get your financial affairs in order and lose him. If he has other redeeming qualities and smartens up and learns how respectful adults communicate, give him another shot. 

I have to agree with 2426girl. My wife struggles with diets and I tell her she is beautiful no matter her weight. She is my world and to me that is true love. It has nothing to do with weight.  

Hi everyone, thank you for your support, it is great to have forum where people can speak their minds. It's important and different perspectives all help, so I truly thank everyone who has supported and commented, I do appreciate it all. Yes its all true, I'm focusing on me, my hubby didn't sign on for a fat lady and I didn't sign on to someone who is rude. So losing weight will give me back my self esteem and bring joy back into me - everyone is a winner. Long life, health and fitness is a true goal. Day two and I feel really good about this. 1/2 avocado for breakfast, some bacon and tea with cream. Keto on I say. 

I have to say, I can identify with @leslycat on many levels, but I truly appreciate the real talk from @Sjgrand and @ LufielBelman. To me, they were more encouraging than anything - whip your attitude into shape like a drill sergeant. Thank you!  

I'm with 2426girl. Sending you love! :)