bethinfriend's Journal, 23 February 2017

Words have power. Don't do it to yourself. Please be kind to yourself, you deserve better. People don't care about your weight, but they will see if you are happy or unhappy. Love yourself, you are the only person who will be with you all your life.  

Bethinfriend - What are the names of the people who you pass on the street? Are they skinny? Have you ever seen a plus sized woman who is good looking? Have you ever seen a skinny, ugly person? I have been obese most of my adult life and I have never thought of myself as unlikeable, or unlovable. I have thin and fat friends and I never judge them because of their looks. Frowning and pouting often make you look like you don't want people around. Try being an actress and smile. Suck it up and assert yourself as a good person. Believe me, I would lay odds that things will change. When looking in that mirror of yours, tell yourself a few good things about yourself. Are you a caring person, hard working, etc. Tell yourself something positive every time you pass that mirror. Good luck. Kathryn 

I am thin, and I don't have evetything. It is all in our head and what opinion we have about ourselves. You will never change what people think, you can only change what you think. Be brave. You are not your body. Change how you think.  

Just really do something right. Every day. And you will definitely have a great result. Don't give up! 

Dear Beth, I'm so sorry you feel terrible about yourself I understand feeling uncomfortable in body. I have struggled since 2013 trying to lose, then regain. I found two things that has changed the game for me. intermittent fasting, and a ketogenic diet. please come find me if you want info on either. https://www.facebook.com/groups/418596058477154/ - Deborah JW Shiloh 

In case my link is tunicated find me on Facebook in a search under OMAD & KETO for weight loss. 

How we feel about ourself rarely is about others but our OWN opinion. Those people walking down the street most likely gave you NO thought whatsoever, it was YOUR thinking. You don't want to weigh yourself? DON"T. Simple as that. Concentrate on being the healthy person you deserve to be and the weight will follow. I've lost a lot of weight and am still the same person. I can do more physically but "same ol' me", same problems as when I was heavier. Self hatred or self love is not determined by our size. Please be kind to yourself, as you would to others.... 

Just remember your not alone must of us feel this way from time to time,but remember we have to find our own beautiful within yourself heavy or thin.Good luck slow and easy it will come off.  

It is so hard to reverse years of negative thoughts about ourselves. We need to take care of our bodies it is true, but it is what is inside of us that determines whether we are truly ugly. Be kind to others and strive daily to treat yourself with some of that kindness as well. Hugs to you.