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I decided to give up alcohol for a while. I had not been dealing particularly well with a recent bereavement, and despite kind of knowing all along. I realised empircally, I was numbing my feelings, so I didn't have to acknowledge and deal with them. For at least 18 months. So I stopped, second week of January, and am now alcohol free for 22 days. Quite a while since I did more than a couple of weeks without a glass of wine. Wine is a real pleasure, so it has been tough. Naively in seems, I expected that cancelling the couple of glasses of wine during the week, would result in a significant weight drop. That has not happened at all. I don't think, I have consummed any more calories, if anything a lot less and I am far more energetic, which is for the better of course. But no real drop, which is very surprising. Anyone, else have this happen? Or know, where I may be going wrong on this? Oh and being, unnumbed has been difficult, very at times. Having to excuse myself to go somewhere private when my emotions come to the surface has been hard, and disabling. For someone, who feels very strongly a lot, but usually does very well to manage them, this has been a very tough escapade. But, I came to realise, not facing those would break me eventually if I did not, accept and acknowledge them, and the hurt. Sorry for such candid misery on a Friday. At least its the WEEKEND people, spend it with and on the people that bring you JOY> Band
Diet Calendar Entry for 09 February 2024:
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Fat: 111.63g | Prot: 61.18g | Carb: 125.83g.
Breakfast: Ocean Spray 100% Juice Cranberry, Coffee with Cream. Lunch: Maggiano's Breaded Chicken, Hidden Valley Sweet Chili, Hellmann's Real Mayonnaise. Snacks/Other: Carr's Table Water Crackers, Sabra Classic Hummus, Babybel Mini Original Cheese, Rollino Prosciutto & Mozzarella Cheese (43g). more...
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I’m so sorry for your loss . I pray for comfort and healing .🙏🩵
09 Feb 24 by member: CharlieLovesChaplin
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Ps Don’t be sorry for the way you feel.. we are all here to support one another . Life can be so hard and overwhelming at times ..
09 Feb 24 by member: CharlieLovesChaplin
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I’m saying a prayer for you. 🙏🏼You are surrounded with compassion from your FS family. Thank you for trusting us with your heart. I admire your vulnerability so much. I hope you take good care of yourself and know that I stand beside you through this difficult time. ❤️
09 Feb 24 by member: shanekwa
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P.S. Congrats on your sobriety! 🎉
09 Feb 24 by member: shanekwa
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We all go through loss and sadness, it doesn’t need to define us or you. Glad you made the choice to give up the wine for a bit, I gave up alcohol 12 years ago and don’t miss it. Have realized life is more enjoyable away from the foggy days and nights. Plus my friends and family are happier now.
09 Feb 24 by member: RobHendershot
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09 Feb 24 by member: RobHendershot
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09 Feb 24 by member: unity1234
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I gave up wine, too, but now I have an occassional beer...lower alcohol %.
09 Feb 24 by member: MarycileC
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Don't have an answer to your question but congrats on giving up alcohol! 🩷
09 Feb 24 by member: Diana 1234
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Sorry you are going through a sad time. Proud of you for giving up alcohol. 💙
09 Feb 24 by member: StormsGirl
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you did the right thing. I did the same for years after my parents died, and nothing good came from it. Therapy can help.
09 Feb 24 by member: Karla Childs
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Sending My Condolences and Prayers for Healing ❤️🩹
You should stay the course and give yourself and your body some more time to adjust to all that has happened. Be patient with you, as now you are in a process of learning to give yourself a little more grace.
As i type this note of encouragement to you, Bandrai, i am less than five months from the 2nd year since my whole entire world was rocked to it’s core. My Dear Mother passed away at the beautiful age of 81 years.
I can tell you that the journey from there to here had been rough, at first. However, the days came when my sad days are now far less and are replaced with sweet memories. I can say the more i took good sound advice to share my feelings through journaling and to begin each day with thoughts of gratitude; then it came days when i realized i could smile when i thought about my Mom.
Often we are the last one to allow ourselves to adapt when everything changes around us. Only you will know when you can think of your Beloved and instead of having to excuse yourself because it’s too much; you will share a fond memory that fills your heart with joy.
10 Feb 24 by member: Alindsey83t
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I also gave up alcohol, which was 2 or 3 drinks total per week. I have not had any success with losing weight and am working better on my nutrition, maybe because of being more mindful at rest where I was consuming wine or beer twice a week.
10 Feb 24 by member: abbadabba
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10 Feb 24 by member: abbadabba
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Stay up and keep pushing forward 🚀
10 Feb 24 by member: ox_cali
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You did the right thing. Eventually you will feel the good things from the relationship with your lost one and not the hurt. It takes time. Back to your question, drinking 1 glass of wine daily (for me at least) aids in weight loss. It’s an appetite suppressant. Many people don’t know this but it’s valid.
10 Feb 24 by member: chris nelli
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Jesus is close to the brokenhearted.
10 Feb 24 by member: rnrn55
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Congrats on the pause, it really is better to feel the emotions even the really crappy ones.
10 Feb 24 by member: abyssoft
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Smart move on your part. I quit drinking decades ago. I don't regret it.
10 Feb 24 by member: -MorticiaAddams
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Thank you everyone, for being so tremendously kind and supportive. I definitely was numbing some tough feelings I did not feel prepared to cope with. Perhaps for as much as 18 months in denial. The result was, I was quite numb, unengaged and very undermotivated from my usual self. And although feeling those emotions has been tough and draining, the hurt is lessening a little bit, and I have become a lot more energised and more like my usual self. A couple of people commented that I seemed brighter. Which is my usual state. I rarely talk out problems, and I realise holding those in and bottling them up, was a big part of the problem.> Now I have started to write out my feelings when I am feeling low, and honestly it has helped a lot.
Thank you again, each of you for the encouragement, its really lovely to pen out into the ether, and have so much kindness (unexpectedly) returned. Health and happiness to all of you :)
13 Feb 24 by member: Bandrai
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