sjojos89's Journal, 26 October 2012

Something has been bothering me awhile and just keeps getting worse. My bf is not supportive of me trying to be healthier. We always do what he wants to do and I am sick of not having a say. Monday we went out to dinner with some friends. I drank water but I ate a lot. Last night he wanted to go to Wings Etc. I texted him n said no and he said well I already told derek and jenni to come. WTF! I've told him more than once to ask me first. Guess that's too hard. Seriously 2 nights during the week and then going out on Saturday. How the hell am I supposed to make any progress. I am so frustrated so I spoke my mind last night and he said I am "no fun." That hurts. I know it's not true. I just wish he supported me more. He thinks I look great so he feels like I am just bein insecure when I want to work out. I'm tired of feeling guilty. If it wasn't for him, I would be home during the week. Don't get the wrong idea though; he's a good guy and treats me right, just a lil selfish. He doesn't get it. Had to vent that one out. I'll do my best to stand my ground next time. I always give in, but it is NOT worth the disappointment I feel.

Happy Friday!! Have a good weekend.
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it's crappy feeling like you have to choose between being fun and being healthy. I wish there were more activities people did socially that didn't revolve around drinking/eating and spending money! 
26 Oct 12 by member: JessWhatINeeded
My hubby likes to eat fast food and I used to give in a lot. Not any more. I have explained to him that I'm not only doing this for vanity reasons, I'm doint this for my health. I had him think about my family and how many of them are big and have health problems and a light went off for him and he saw my point. Now, he'll ask me before he decides we should go out and if I tell him I really don't want to, we don't. Also, I showed my hubby what we spent on eating out every month and he was all for staying home after that too. Another option if you don't mind cooking have your friends over and make something healthier. You can stay in and see your friends, sometimes it's more fun that way. Good luck!! 
26 Oct 12 by member: mars2kids
So sorry he's not supportive and you're feeling like this.. My fiance is also not so great about making good food choices, but whenever we go out to eat I still just try to make better choices - when I was in my 'weight loss stage', I would still go to the bars and stuff, but I would just have one ultralight beer and then switch to water - got some grief about it, but whatever.. but I think there's something weird about our culture of food/drinking - when we eat bad/drink a lot, we feel 'better' about ourselves if everyone around us is doing the same.. so then when someone makes better choices, we try to guilt trip them.. ???? 
28 Oct 12 by member: erika2633
I agree with you guys. I don't want to be judged, but unfortunately I'm going to have to deal with it since the people I'm around don't have healthy lifestyles. That's why I try not to talk about it. I can't see his bank account, but we both know he blows lots of money on junk food. I also brougth up my genes. I am not from a petite family so my highschool skinny days without exercising and eating right are over. I have to actually make an effort now ha. Sometimes it is hard cuz I want to drink or eat out, but like I said, I am just going to have to be very blunt no matter what. Kinda sad that people can't just support us even if they don't feel the same. At least they could try to understand. Oh well, I'm over it ! :) Thanks for the support ladies! It helps to talk about things like this. Today is my Friday, booo yahhh!! Lol Have a great day! 
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