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From Craig Harper's blog. Great advice:
Some suggestions:
1. Appreciate your body but don’t be your body. When the entirety of your self-esteem and identity is dependent on your appearance, you can’t help but be anxious, fearful and insecure. You are much more than a bunch of bones, organs and muscles. Your body is where you live, not who you are.
2. Don’t hang out with toxic people. Self-absorbed, problem-focused, self-pitying, jealous, resentful, angry types. You know the ones. As I say often, spend time with people who will drag you up.
3. Stop having the same pointless conversations with the same people about the same issues only to produce the same negative outcomes. You know the ones.
4. Keep a gratitude journal. If you live in a first-world country and have a bed, food, clean water and education, you’re in the minority. If you want to find reasons to be miserable, you will.
5. Stop beating yourself up. Self-loathing is pointless, dis-empowering and potential-destroying. It’s also annoying to be around. Replace your self-loathing with self-awareness.
6. Don’t waste emotional energy on things you can’t change. Like what happened yesterday, the weather, your genetics and other people. Control your controllables, let go of the rest and you might be a lot happier.
7. Stop using food as an anaesthetic to numb your emotional pain. Good in the short term (like ten minutes), crap over the long term. Using food as an avoidance mechanism only creates more problems.
8. Please yourself. And this is not about being selfish or self-centred. No, it’s about being authentic and genuine. It’s about letting go of the desperate and unhealthy need to fit in, to please others and to compromise your own values, beliefs and standards in order to belong. If you’re not good enough as you are, you don’t need to belong to their group.
9. Spend time in nature. Nature is calming, therapeutic and has proven health benefits; both physical and emotional. The sound of water, the feeling of sand between your toes, the smell of a forest, the warmth of the sun on your back, the exhilaration of climbing a mountain and the tranquility of soaking in a beautiful view. Step out of the chaos and into the calm and your heart will thank you.
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1) Yes, I definitely have a problem with that.
3) Yerp. When they're family they're sooo hard to get rid of.
4) I try to be positive. Try. It's hard some days lol.
7) I bounce from binging to anorexic tendencies. Either I'm using food to medicate or to punish. I have a very unhealthy relationship with food.
9) Everyday I have the energy, my dogs and I go to the off-leash park, and by park I mean forest and trees and wild life. I love watching them run around like morons. Seeing how happy they are lifts my spirits to no end.
There should be a number ten. "Be like a dog". They don't give a shit about much. They live in the moment, are appreciative of all they have, don't hold grudges, and just live to be happy <3
15 Jul 13 by member: Canadient
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1) Yes, that's why we're so obsessive about food.
3) No matter who or what, when they're a detriment to your mental and physical state, create boundaries. One thing I do is see them for who they are,(ie this is Jane Doe just being Jane Doe) and this way, I create a mental distance and it doesn't get to me on a personal level. 4) There is always a positive lining to everything. You have to focus on it. 7)Food to some of us, is like drugs. And, as with all drugs, abstinence is the key. Of course, we must eat, but the abstinence is to abstain from commercial food (processed) as that's where the food industry adds additives to make the foods play on your mind. 9) I know exactly how you feel, I have a dog too that I leave off leash next to the water and just to see him prance around is an unbelievable uplifting feeling. To me, that is a spiritual dimension in my life Yes, we have some things to learn from them.
16 Jul 13 by member: NowIunderstand
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1) Yes, that's why we're so obsessive about food.
3) No matter who or what, when they're a detriment to your mental and physical state, create boundaries. One thing I do is see them for who they are,(ie this is Jane Doe just being Jane Doe) and this way, I create a mental distance and it doesn't get to me on a personal level. 4) There is always a positive lining to everything. You have to focus on it. 7)Food to some of us, is like drugs. And, as with all drugs, abstinence is the key. Of course, we must eat, but the abstinence is to abstain from commercial food (processed) as that's where the food industry adds additives to make the foods play on your mind. 9) I know exactly how you feel, I have a dog too that I leave off leash next to the water and just to see him prance around is an unbelievable uplifting feeling. To me, that is a spiritual dimension in my life Yes, we have some things to learn from them.
16 Jul 13 by member: NowIunderstand
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