WisteriaSky233's Journal, 18 May 2024

Can you stay with your mom while you get situated 

Glad your parents are there for you. Since the marriage conflict has escalated to the point that you feel you should vacate your home and move to the RV - which is exactly opposite what he agreed to - why not go ahead and "rip off the band-aid" and file for divorce, or at least legal separation. It can soft-pettle the breakup to the other party. It also freezes the clock on financials. For example, if he's unemployed and you have employment income, it sets a date that affects how much financial support you must give him. Don't know about Texas, but California has walk-in clinics that help you fill out paperwork without an attorney. 

edit: soft-peddle (not pettle). 

Looks like you have a long road ahead of you 😔 

@Yearofhealth2023 parents house is unlivable as they are hoarders. No hot water etc no space in the home. And to the other commenter, Texas sucks. No legal separation. And lawyers are over 3k. I have looked into financial hell but they say I'm not broke enough for assistance. I will get in touch with the advocate to file on my own. I got home and Hubs cleaned the house, had coffee for me and such to be sweet. But I cannot believe jekyll when hyde is the real person.  

Be safe. Sending prayers your way 🙏. 

Oh wow!!! I'm so sorry that your dealing with this issue my prayers are with you.  

I would NOT move out of your home if you are currently the only one paying the mortgage/rent. Put all of his stuff in the RV and have the home’s locks changed. And definitely get your own bank account and cancel any joint credit cards. Commit to the change you have started. 

this is super concerning. he does not care about your boundaries and even pushing against them and blatantly disobeying them. i agree with bananas... though it depends if the house is affordable for you on your own. when i left my abusive ex, i moved somewhere else and he couldn't find me. Even got a new car so he wouldn't be able to recognize me on the street in our smal townp 

Bananas is right, don’t move out. Can you find an online women’s advocacy group that can walk you through the process? Do you have legal insurance through work? Good luck.  

Sounds like you need to get something legal on paper, even if it means getting the divorce. You can file on your own in many states.  

You’re very young and have your life in front of you. Enjoy everyday. Things will get better. 

Wow! He just doesn't give up does he?? It is so concerning that he crosses every boundary that has been agreed upon. You need to set legal boundaries instead of verbal. Praying your guardian angel has a shield of protection around you. 

WisteriaSky, are you back from the road trip? How are you?  

@HealtyNow yes, it was just a one night trip. I'm not great because he knows I am done and is back in the house.